I Really Liked Him But His Constant Texting Was Such A Turnoff

Don’t get me wrong—texting is great if it’s with the right person. However, this guy I was seeing was the worst kind of texter and it completely put me off him. He wanted to text non-stop and didn’t see a problem with it. Needless to say, I feel like I made a lucky escape.

  1. He wanted to text 24/7 and it was too much. It was obvious that his favorite form of communication was texting. That’s all he wanted to do. Honestly, it seemed like he preferred texting to actually meeting face-to-face, which is just plain weird. Maybe he had stuff to hide? It’s easier to keep secrets when talking through a screen and I didn’t want to stick around to find out about the skeletons in his closet.
  2. He used emojis WAY too much. Okay, I know this sounds ridiculous, but just hear me out. I like emojis and I use them myself—otherwise, I come across as someone with no personality. Well, this guy didn’t just like emojis, he LOVED emojis. In fact, one of his many talents was being able to communicate solely through the use of them. Since when did he forget how to use words? He was supposed to be in his 20s!
  3. He wouldn’t give me much space. Every time I put my phone down for a couple of hours, I would come back to a ton of messages. Keeping in mind that I specifically told him that I was busy and I had stuff to do, he still thought that it was acceptable to blow up my phone! That’s not cool. It shows that he’s the kind of guy who doesn’t respect other people’s boundaries.
  4. He took everything way too personally. One of the downsides to texting is that it’s difficult to understand what kind of mood that person is in, which can lead to misunderstandings. If I accidentally used the wrong emoji or added a period to the end of my sentence, he would take that as a sign that I was annoyed with him even if I didn’t mean to come across that way. Every time I would have to reassure him and it became exhausting. Why is it such a big deal? It’s just texting.
  5. He didn’t double text, he sent six messages in a row. This is the kind of thing that can get annoying real quick. We weren’t actually dating, but he seemed to think that I should give him all of my attention. If I didn’t reply within five minutes, he would keep sending short messages to get my attention until eventually I caved in and replied. Now I realize I should have put an end to it there and then.
  6. He answered questions with another question. I knew this guy for a while, but did I ever really get to know him? No. He asked me a lot of questions and I always replied, but when it was his turn to answer the same questions, I never got a good answer out of him. His replies were short and vague, yet he seemed more interested in what I had to say. It felt like he knew me far more than I knew him and maybe that’s the way he wanted it.
  7. He was vague about his past. It was strange that he never spoke about his past considering he asked me questions about mine. The conversations always felt one-sided because he never once opened up about his childhood, his family, or past relationships. There must have been a reason why he was holding back…
  8. He got offended if I took a few hours to reply. I’m assuming this guy thought that I had no life. I mean, why should I work and get paid when I can spend all day texting him? That will definitely pay the bills. Honestly, I found it quite insulting that he assumed that I had time to text him despite the fact that he knew that I was working. That was another red flag.
  9. He was clingy but uninterested at the same time. It makes no sense, but that’s the only way that I can describe him. He always wanted to talk to me, replied super quick, and asked a lot of questions… but he still seemed like he couldn’t care less about my responses. Honestly, I think he was just texting me to kill some time, but it sure wasn’t my job to entertain him.
  10. He wasn’t interesting anymore. After a while, texting becomes really boring and repetitive. We fell into a routine where he asked the same questions and I usually replied with the same answers. It was boring. He could have asked if I had plans and instead of talking through a screen we could have had a real conversation face-to-face and gotten to know each other. But that wasn’t what he wanted.
  11. He ghosted on me. At the time, I accepted that he had disappeared from my life and I’d probably never hear from him again. I didn’t know what happened but I felt that he actually did me a huge favor. Of course, after a few weeks, he came back and it completely threw me off. The most frustrating part is that he started texting me like normal! Trust me, deleting his number was the best decision I ever made.
Coralle is a freelance writer with an interest in relationships, women's health and parenting. In her free time, she enjoys reading, watching new Netflix shows and spending time with family.