Reasons Introverts Make Amazing Romantic Partners & Why You Should Date One

While not all extroverts are brash, loud, and excitable main characters, I think we can all agree that introverts make pretty amazing partners and you should date one if you haven’t already. Things will generally be more quiet and introspective and while that may seem boring, in reality, it’s anything but. Here are some reasons why the humble introvert can be the most amazing partner.

  1. They tend to be great at communication. If there’s one thing you can be assured of when you date an introvert, it’s that their thoughts are always well-considered. They stew for a long time before actually speaking their mind, and they’re often conflict-averse. I know this because I am one! This means that when introverts do speak, it is clear, concise, and in full knowledge of the importance of communication in a relationship. Now, I also know that introverts are prone to overthinking, so this makes it all the more valuable that they can communicate honestly whenever they feel anxious or need support. It makes the relationship a safe space.
  2. They give you space. While some partnerships are more codependent, the value of an introvert is that they often have a social battery. When this runs out, they need space. This is great as a healthy refresh in the relationship. You shouldn’t spend all your time together anyway. This ensures healthy boundaries. Even if you need more attention than your partner can give you, this is a great time to hang with friends or family and ensure that you don’t put all your eggs in one emotional basket.
  3. They’re honest. They know that they will overthink, which means that introverts are always keen to know your true thoughts. We don’t have time for people pleasers, and often mistrust compliments. It means that you might have to adjust your language to accommodate this. In the long run, you really know each other’s love language.
  4. You don’t waste time. There’s no jumping around the issues when you date an introvert. You get to the heart of the matter in a compassionate way, rather than a panicked argument. They won’t pretend to be something they’re not, and introverts will always be honest. You might have to push them or give them a gentle nudge to have these conversations, but once you have them, there’s no bullshit. You will always know where you stand and that’s mature.
  5. They let you come to them. As well as giving you space to be alone with your own thoughts, introverts will also help you address your own issues. If you have unidentified dependency or attachment issues, an introvert will identify these patterns. They can help you slow down and reflect on your behaviors. They will also let you come to them and be comfortable in embracing your sexuality. Introverts will love you right where you’re at.
  6. Introverts won’t love-bomb. The thing with extroverts is that, if they haven’t been left alone with their thoughts for extended periods of time, they often don’t know how their actions impact the people around them. Love-bombing happens when people aren’t sure of how to address difficult emotions when talking to a partner. It involves amping up the intensity of the relationship as a way of avoiding an argument, like saying ‘I love you’ too early, or overwhelming a partner with gestures of affection. However, these can often be hollow and meaningless. An introvert is much less likely to resort to this. The relationship will be much more communicative.
  7. They offer stability. Introverts love stability and routine. This could be a great time for you to introduce more spontaneity and adventure to their lives, in fact. When you balance each other out like this, you can grow in a sustainable way. You trust each other and you can commit to a future together with both logic and emotion.
  8. They want to know you. Introverts don’t care as much about the public side of a relationship or the fancy gifts. Their love language is quality time and words of affirmation, not touch or gift-giving. It’s far more genuine.
  9. They won’t perform a relationship for other people. Your partner will not embarrass you with a huge public display of affection, particularly if they know you don’t want that. Introverts are much better at reading social situations and individual characters. They won’t waste time with big gestures that you don’t want.

Introverts, in short, are the gold standard of human beings in relationships. I mean, why wouldn’t they be?

Hannah has a Masters degree in Romantic and Victorian literature in Scotland and spends her spare time writing anything from essays to short fiction about the life and times of the frogs in her local pond! She loves musical theatre, football, anything with potatoes, and remains a firm believer that most of the problems in this world can be solved by dancing around the kitchen to ABBA. You can find her on Instagram at @_hannahvic.