A unicorn is a guy who seems like a magical being you never thought you’d ever meet. It’s only natural that if you’re on a date with someone who has all the qualities you’ve ever wanted in a boyfriend plus more to go around, then you’ve found yourself the elusive unicorn. Before you bestow him with such a lofty moniker, here’s why you should think again.
- Yes, he’s great, but you’re great too. The problem with calling your partner a unicorn is that you’re putting him on a pedestal. What about you and your worth? Don’t put him up while bringing yourself down by saying you never thought you would’ve met such an amazing guy as him. Please! You’re amazing.
- It can give him a big head. If he’s ruled by his ego, he’ll love being called a unicorn. It’ll make him even bigger headed than he already is. You don’t want to be with someone like that. Next!
- Calling him a unicorn can make him feel awkward. If he’s a humble, down-to-earth guy, he might not actually want to be called a unicorn. It might make him feel uncomfortable to be put on a pedestal. Talk about pressure! Great way to ruin a chilled second date, by the way.
- It creates expectations. Everyone has expectations when they step into a new relationship, but some should be avoided. Like calling your partner a unicorn. It creates the expectation that he’s always going to be a perfect, magical being, when that’s totally unrealistic.
- It doesn’t give him a chance. There are many things slapping him with the unicorn label stops him from doing. First, it doesn’t give him a chance to tell you why you’re so great. Second, it doesn’t give him a chance to show you what he’s really like, you know, when you’re two or three months into your relationship and he shows you how badly he loses his cool in public. Get to know him before you use those labels.
- It blinds you to his flaws. If you’re always waxing lyrical (to him or your BFFs) about how great he is, you could risk ignoring all his flaws. Because he does have them. They don’t have to be a bad thing, but it’s good to remember that he’s human even though he’s so dreamy.
- It makes you ignore the red flags. Now, there are flaws and then there are massive fatal flaws! You don’t want to miss these because the earlier you spot them, the quicker you can get out of the relationship and move on with your lovely life. Don’t build someone up so much that you ignore the really bad things that could be lingering underneath the surface.
- It makes you seem desperate. This had to appear on this list sooner or later. Sorry. The problem with calling your guy a unicorn is that it can make it seem like you’re desperate if you’re going on about how amazing/perfect/dreamy he is. Maybe you can’t believe your luck at having found him on Tinder, but don’t act like he’s the last guy on earth. He’s not – there are still awesome people out there.
- It makes you seem jaded. Now, you might be wondering how on earth calling a guy you’ve met a unicorn makes you seem jaded or bitter. What does his dreamy nature have to do with how you feel about love? Well, when you put the person you’re dating up on a pedestal, it sends the message that you’re so excited to be with him because you’d completely lost hope about love. You were bitter about dating and then he entered your life and completely changed that. Not only does this make you seem desperate for love, as though you were waiting for him to rock up (ugh), but it piles all those expectations we talked about earlier on his head. Neither one is cool.
- It makes you think your relationship will be perfect. Yeah, the guy is great, kind to your mother, and puts the toilet seat down, but he’s not going to bring you happiness all the time and he might not necessarily be the best person to date. People can surprise you if you give them a chance to show you who they really are. The bottom line: Nothing is perfect, and if you’re holding out for a perfect relationship, then you’re going to hit the ground sooner or later – pretty hard.
