10 Reasons Sex Gets Even Better In Your 30s

There’s the joke that says sex is like pizza: even when it’s bad, it’s still good. But just because bad sex can still be decent sex doesn’t mean that there’s not room for improvement. And if you thought you were having good sex in your 20s, girl, just wait. Sex in your 30s is going to knock your socks off.

  1. You hit your sexual peak. While science can’t necessarily decide if it’s a biological factor, a psychological one, or a combination of the two, most people agree that women hit a sexual peak in their early 30s. They tend to have a higher sex drive, better sex, and more orgasms than any other previous time in their life. Whether it’s because of a ticking biological clock or finally being comfortable in your own skin, it doesn’t really matter — the effects are still the same.
  2. You’re okay with your body. By the time you’re in your 30s, you know that nobody’s perfect and the bodies on the magazine covers don’t really look that way. You’ve come to terms your body’s defects and have learned that you can still enjoy getting down and dirty even if you have an extra five pounds to lose.
  3. You’ve learned what feels good. While many women still blush at the mention of masturbation, by the time you’re 30 or above, you know how to get yourself off. And once you’ve figured out what makes your body feel good, you can show someone else how to do it too.
  4. And you’re not afraid to do it if you have to. If you’re having sex with a guy who can’t figure out how to get you off, by the time you’re in your 30s, you’re okay reaching down and lending a helping hand. Having sex with an incompetent man no longer means that you’re going to spend the rest of the day frustrated and uncomfortable.
  5. Sex is about sex. Now that you’re in your 30s, you realize the value of sex for sex. It doesn’t have anything to do with manipulation. You’re not sleeping with him to get him to stay, and you know he’s not going to like you more just because he got laid. That means sex becomes more about sex and you value it for its ability to get you off, not get you things.
  6. Hello, multiple orgasms. In their teens and 20s, the number-one sex complaint women have is with difficulty achieving orgasm. And while some women still struggle with it into their 30s, many find it much easier to get off at this age. What’s more, women may begin experiencing multiple orgasms for the first time, and suddenly sex gets a lot more fun.
  7. You have fewer hangups. One of the reasons sex becomes better in your 30s is because women have fewer hang-ups. You’ve grown up a bit, aren’t as squeamish about enjoying your body, about having sex, and about life in general. You’re more likely to get a little risque and worry less about what he’ll think about you the morning. You’d rather turn a mishap into a laugh than let it ruin your fun.
  8. You’re sex-positive. No longer ashamed for enjoying something that’s meant to be enjoyed, most of today’s women are sex positive by the time they’ve hit their 30s. They understand the positive role it plays in their lives and are okay with consenting adults enjoying each other.
  9. You don’t play games. Now that you’re in your 30s, you’re over the game playing and drama that often surrounded sex in your 20s. With that drama gone, you can kick back and enjoy getting it on without worrying about what others think.
  10. You’re here to have fun. If you haven’t realized how short life is yet, you will in your 30s. And with that realization comes the understanding that you’re here to have fun. You need to take advantage of the time you’re given and give into a little bit of hanky panky.
Molly Carter is a backyard farmer, a fitness fanatic, and a pursuer of happiness. She writes words and eats real food.