10 Red Flags That Are Actually The Beginning Of The End Of Your Relationship

You might think these 1o things are just a relationship rut or rough patch, but they could be red flags that signal the end of your relationship is approaching. Although that can seem scary, it’s important to remember that it’s better to get out if your relationship is bringing you stress instead of bliss.

  1. You’re angry all the time. When you’re in the company of your partner, you feel stressed and angry most of the time. Be careful—once you start resenting your partner for things, it makes it harder for your relationship to bounce back. But should it? If you’re holding onto so much anger, maybe it’s enough to cut your losses.
  2. You dislike who you’ve become in the relationship. Maybe you’re not the fun, mellow person you used to be anymore. That’s a concern you shouldn’t ignore. If your partner has changed you, whether directly or indirectly, that’s not healthy. So, if your friends ask what’s happened to make you become a different person and they hint that you’ve changed since getting together with your partner, maybe it’s worth taking a deeper look at your relationship.
  3. You don’t know your partner anymore. If it feels like your partner is the one who’s changed, becoming almost unrecognizable when compared to the person you started dating, then you have to wonder why. Are they checking out of the relationship? Are they becoming someone else so that they can impress someone new? Do they never initiate communication anymore because they’re just going through the motions?
  4. Your partner doesn’t confide in you anymore. It’s really bad when communication stops. While your partner doesn’t have to tell you about every little thought and feeling they have, it’s a bad sign that things are falling apart if they don’t turn to you when they need advice or want to express their feelings. Same goes for when something big happens in their life. You should be the first person they call.
  5. You’re spending  more time with other people. Maybe you’ve been spending more time with your friends. While that in itself doesn’t have to set off warning bells in your relationship, it is a concern if you’re always choosing them over your partner. It’s like you don’t care to be around them anymore. It’s an even bigger sign that your relationship is doomed if you feel so much better when you’re not in their company.
  6. You fight all the time and never resolve anything. While arguing can be a golden opportunity to solve issues and reach greater self-growth (as long as it’s done fairly), if you’re not getting closure on your fights and resolving those issues that keep coming up, then fighting is pointless and totally toxic. You’re just hurting each other.
  7. You don’t feel supported. When was the last time your partner told you “Great job!” when you got a promotion at work? When was the last time he listened to you vent about your bad day without rolling his eyes or changing the subject? If you don’t feel like they’ve got your back during the good and bad times, then you don’t have a partner. You have an acquaintance.
  8. Your partner doesn’t want to get help. If you know you have relationship issues that could do with the help of a therapist but your partner refuses to go see one with you, then that’s a clear sign they’re no longer interested in working on your relationship. They’re pretty much done with the relationship and might as well break up with you.
  9. There’s no trust anymore. Without trust in your relationship, you have nothing. Maybe your partner cheated on you and you can’t seem to work through it. Or maybe you just get the feeling that they’re not 100% committed to you, even though they reassure you that they are. Whatever the case, if your gut’s screaming at you not to trust your partner, you should listen to it and probably get out of the relationship ASAP.
  10. You’re afraid to leave even though you’re unhappy. You’re freaking miserable in your relationship but you don’t want to leave it. Why? Maybe you’re afraid to be single. But ask yourself: isn’t it better to be happy on your own than to be stuck with someone who brings you down all the time? Besides, if you feel terrible most of the time in your relationship, it’s only a matter of time before it will end, one way or another. You might even subconsciously push your partner to be the one to end things.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.