I Refuse To Act Fake To Get A Guy To Fall For Me

I shouldn’t have to smile, nod, twirl my hair and dumb myself down just to get a guy to fall for me — screw that. I already know what I’m worth and I don’t need to play games or act like someone I’m not to prove it. I am who I am and I’m not afraid to be completely authentic. I refuse to act fake to get a guy to fall for me.

  1. Faking it feels forced. Changing who I am to get a guy to like me is complete and utter BS. Having to plan out what I’m going to say, what my opinions are or lying about how busy my life is, is actually way more exhausting, not to mention completely disingenuous. I shouldn’t need to fake it to force a guy to like me more. The fact that this crappy logic is still being spread around is ludicrous. It’s 2016 and time to grow the hell up.
  2. Who I am is enough. I’m confident about who I am and I know that each and every layer of me is worth knowing and loving completely. I want a guy to be into me for who I genuinely am right off the bat, and not because I faked it just to keep him coming back for more.
  3. I’m proud of my intelligence. I’m proud as hell to be the smart woman I am and I shouldn’t need to hide what I know just so a guy doesn’t feel emasculated or threatened by me. I want a real man, not some little jerk who can’t handle an amazing, strong and intelligent woman.
  4. If a guy doesn’t like me for me, he’s not the right guy. I’m at the point in my life where forcing myself to be someone I’m not just to avoid being single isn’t worth it. I’ve been in that situation before and it was painfully exhausting, not to mention self-destructive. If a guy doesn’t like me for who I am naturally, he’s not the right guy for me — period.
  5. I don’t have the energy to act fake. Acting fake is more fuss than it’s worth, especially when you’re just going to have to let your true colors show eventually. I’d rather know sooner than later if a guy truly likes who I am and not waste my time postponing the inevitable if he’s not into me.
  6. Authenticity is a law of attraction. I truly believe in the law of attraction and if I act fake in the beginning to lure a guy to me, I’m only inviting false hope into my life. Being real and true to myself is worth it because I choose to believe being myself will attract a guy who’s also genuine.
  7. Honesty is a form of maturity. I’m a grown woman and I choose not to play games like I’m in middle school. If I’m going to wear my adult hat, I’m going to wear it all the way and not shy away from my honest and true self. Like I said, I’m proud of who I am, so why would I hide it?
  8. I’d rather not waste my time on a fake beginning. False starts lead to disastrous endings every time. It’s not only unfair to the guy I’m dating to pretend I’m someone I’m not to get him to like me more, it’s also a huge disservice to myself. I want the beginning of my love story to be honest and unrehearsed. It should unfold organically and work out because it was meant to — not because it was built on a lie.
  9. Real love is real all the way. I don’t want to look back on my love story and regret who I portrayed myself to be in the beginning. I want to know I’ve won the heart of the person I end up with because he truly was enamored by every detail about me. There’s a reason they call it real love, and it’s not because of false advertising. It’s because it was always pure and honest right from the beginning and I won’t settle for anything less than the real deal.