Has Your Relationship Hit These 10 Couple Milestones? If So, You’re Meant To Be

The majority of couples don’t stay together forever—that’s some harsh reality but it’s the sad truth. So how do you know if you and your partner are playing for keeps? Well, not until you’ve at least done these 10 things:

  1. Discussed having kids Kids are such a big part of life and how a person feels about them being a part of their life doesn’t usually change. You can’t really talk a man into being a father any more than he could talk you into being a mother. You either want to have kids or you don’t. Make sure you’re on the same page about this huge life factor or your forever guy might just be temporary.
  2. Gotten past the honeymoon stage and still been crazy about each other The first few months of a relationship can be amazing but things don’t stay perfect forever. It takes time to get to know the real ins and outs of each other. Just because you might feel like you’re in a love like never before within just a few weeks, don’t jump the gun. There’s no need to rush into forever. Take your time, get past the honeymoon stage, and see how you feel after you’re past the initial attraction and things start getting real.
  3. Talked about your career goals You might think it’s a question strictly for job interviews, but where you see yourself in 10 years can be just as important to a relationship. If you think he’s your forever man then you need to know that the future you see for yourself is one he sees for himself too. However important your career is and wherever that may take you can all factor into whether you last forever or whether you’re a couple with a time limit.
  4. Spent at least a week living together Whether you actually live together or go on vacation, you need to know what it’s like to be with each other 24/7. A few hours a day hanging out, a day long date, or even a weekend getaway isn’t enough to see if you’re truly compatible. You need to see if you can stand the heat and take each other’s little quirks and annoyances or if you can’t stand spending that much time together. That’s the true test of whether you’re meant to be or just meant for right now.
  5. Met each other’s families For some people, whether or not their partner gets along with their family can be a dealbreaker. So what happens if you hate his family or he hates yours? What happens if one of you is super close with your family and the other can stand them? Or what if your family is the one who hates your partner? Will you be able to handle that struggle or will you decide it’s easier to find someone who fits in with your roots?
  6. Chose to love each other even when you’ve hated each other No matter how amazing of a couple you are, you’re not always going to like each other. Sometimes you’ll get on each other’s last nerve, but is that when you call it quits? You have to know what it’s like to choose to love someone even when they’re driving you nuts. If you can’t love him while you hate him, then it’s never going to last.
  7. Had your fair share of fights and resolved them maturely It might sound confusing that you have to fight in order to figure out if you can handle forever but it’s true. Every couple is going to fight from time to time and you need to know if you’re able to work together and find solutions or if you’re a couple that will never see eye to eye and never be able to compromise. If you want the relationship to last forever, you have to discover whether you can get over the bumps in the road or whether they’ll make you go your separate ways.
  8. Let all of your skeletons out of the closet Couples who keep secrets aren’t the types of couples that last forever. Secrets eat away at a relationship. You have a past and so does he but what matters is who you are now together. Let him in on what led you to be who you are today and get to really know the man you want to spend your life with because if you don’t, you never know when the secrets of the past might come back to haunt you.
  9. Considered if you could live without each other Sure, heartbreak might not kill you, but would you truly be able to be happy without the person lying next to you or would you spend the rest of your days thinking of them as the one that got away? If you could bear the thought of life without each other or even imagine being happy without each other then you’re not in a forever kind of love.
  10. Forgiven your ex You can’t commit your whole heart to one man when you’re still holding a torch for another. Even if that fire is simply a flame of hatred, it means that you haven’t moved past your breakup. If you really want to move on, you also need to let go. Forget the promises he made and forgive him for the way he hurt you. After all, if he didn’t break your heart, you might still be with the wrong guy and not with your forever man.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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