Being In A Relationship Is Pointless If It’s Not With The Right Person

Being single might be extremely difficult at times, but ending up with someone you’re not head over heels for is even worse. Rolling solo isn’t a curse — in fact, building an amazing life on your own is easier than ever, so why bother settling down in a relationship if it’s not with someone you love all the way? Being in a relationship is completely pointless if it’s not with the right person.

  1. A significant other isn’t an accessory. Having someone to attend functions with and share the day to day living tasks with is wonderful, but it’s not necessary to live a happy life. So many people are so fixated on having someone in their lives that they end up choosing the wrong partners out of the fear of doing things alone. Being content with your own company and living happily in your own independence makes finding that special someone even more rewarding. It’s because you’ll want them genuinely rather than feeling that you need them to fill a void.
  2. Too many people settle before they know who they are. Knowing yourself first is the most amazing thing you can do for yourself and taking the time to develop your own character will teach you a lot about who and want you truly want out of love. Unfortunately, too many people end up with someone they end up growing out of fairly quickly and it’s because they didn’t take the time to grow themselves first. When you’re single and remaining patient in your journey to love, you’re growing yourself even further with each passing day without love and you should be extremely proud of that fact because a lot of people aren’t brave enough to endure it.
  3. Experience is what teaches you what really matters in love. When you take your time to truly experience different personalities, hobbies and morals when it comes to finding a partner, you’ll realize with each experience that you’re narrowing in on exactly what you do and don’t want in a relationship and in a partner. You’ll inevitably get hurt along the way, but if you don’t experience the worst, you’ll never truly appreciate the good when you finally have it.
  4. Being miserable outweighs the fear of being alone. The sad reality is there are plenty of couples out there who are more afraid of being alone than being with someone who doesn’t make them truly and completely happy. People in dysfunctional relationships fear that starting all over again will be more embarrassing than sticking it out in a bad relationship. Being alone is always scary at first, especially when you’ve grown so used to being in a relationship. The only thing scarier than starting over is wasting your life with someone who isn’t truly meant for you.
  5. There’s more to life than being in a relationship. Sometimes it seems like love and the idea of love are on steroids, so it’s only natural to feel the pressure of needing to be coupled up, but the realm of love goes beyond the relationship kind. It may sound cliche but self-love is instrumental to building a solid foundation for yourself to make the right choice when it comes to choosing a life partner. Self-love means you take care of yourself first and enjoy the other fruits life has to offer, like a dream career path, a hobby you’re passionate about and spending time with and loving the other people in your life. When you choose yourself first, the right partner and love will naturally follow eventually.
  6. A relationship isn’t a business plan. You should never choose a partner for monetary gain because, most of the time, it’s the fastest way to end up unhappy later on down the road. Relationships aren’t a ladder to upgrade your lifestyle and if you choose to commit your life to someone based on what they can give you materially, you’ll miss out on the acts of true love that don’t cost a penny.
  7. You accept the love you think you deserve. If you think you deserve plain comforts and a mediocre love, that’s the love you’ll receive, but if you think you deserve true romance and a person who’s both thoughtful and kind each and every day in your relationship, that’s what you’ll attract. The law of attraction might seem hokey to some people, but there’s a lot of truth to it. If you end up stuck in a crappy relationship that you’re not completely fulfilled by, chances are, you’re allowing yourself to stay there. The choice is always yours.
  8. Life is really, REALLY short. As scary as it might be to end up alone, your life is too short to waste years of your life on someone who you know deep down isn’t the best you can do. People can be wonderful but still be wrong for you in a romantic sense. You only get one shot at this thing called life, so making the most of it in all ways is the best choice you’ll ever make. Being single and waiting on that perfect person for you is a time to relish in what you have going for yourself right now because it’s only a matter of time before the right person shows up.
  9. True love does exist if you’re patient enough. As you get older, it seems like more and more people are coupling up, starting families and hitting big milestones together — but it’s not the end of the world if you aren’t quite there yet. Real love is hard to find and being in a relationship, while wonderful, is completely pointless if it’s not with the right person. Enjoy, love and know yourself first. The right love will come around when it’s meant for you and not because you chose to settle on it.