A Relationship Won’t Work If You’re The Only One Making An Effort

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A relationship won’t work if you’re the only one making an effort. But if he loves you as much as you love him, then he shouldn’t have an issue with working hard to keep you around. That’s the only way that you two are going to last, so here are a few things that your man should put as much effort into as you do:

  1. He should dress well. You shouldn’t have to go through the stress of waxing, applying your makeup, and slipping into a teeny tiny dress when he gets to walk around in boxers and a wife beater. He should keep his face and genitals trimmed, his body washed, and his clothes wrinkle free.
  2. He should dominate during sex. He can’t expect you to do all the work in the bedroom. He should get on top as often as you do, and he should go down on you as many times as you go down on him.
  3. He should do chores. If you do the dishes one day, he should take care of them the next day. You should always alternate when it comes to chores, because you’re not his housekeeper.
  4. He should pay the bill. You should pick up the bill just as often as he does. If you two plan on spending the rest of your lives together, then you need to split your finances down the middle, which means that you’re both responsible for having money on you.
  5. He should give in. When you two get into an argument, he should occasionally be willing to let you have your way. Of course, there are times when you should be the bigger person and let him have his way for a change.
  6. He should text first. You shouldn’t be the only one who initiates conversations. If he really cares about you, he won’t have a problem texting you before you text him.
  7. He should plan dates. The stress of planning date night shouldn’t fall solely on you. He should rack his brain to come up with some exciting ideas, so that you don’t always have to do the work.
  8. He should compliment you. You should make it your mission to make your boyfriend feel confident, and he should do the same. Compliments should be given out religiously.
  9. He should spend time with your friends. If you agree to hang out with him and his friends or family, then he should be willing to hang out with you and your friends. It’s only fair.
  10. He should listen to you. You shouldn’t be doing all of the talking, but you shouldn’t be doing all of the listening either. Relationships are all about give and take, which is why your conversations should never be one-sided.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.