Reminder: He Can’t Actually Read Your Mind, So You’ll Have To Speak Up

Reminder: He Can’t Actually Read Your Mind, So You’ll Have To Speak Up ©iStock/pixdeluxe

Sometimes, it seems like your boyfriend knows you better than you know yourself. He even knows what you’re going to say before you say it. But you have to remember that he can’t actually read your mind, and occasionally, you’ll have to use your words if you want him to know how you’re feeling.

  1. It’s not a crime to admit you’re hurt. You might say you’re “fine,” because you hate that women are labeled as irrational and emotional. But you shouldn’t be embarrassed to admit that you’re upset. Your boyfriend isn’t going to judge you for having feelings.
  2. Your signs might not be as obvious as you think they are. Texting him less than you usually do and cutting back on the emojis might seem like a big deal to you, but he might not even notice the change. That’s why you actually have to tell him that you’re pissed at him. Otherwise, he’s never going to figure it out.
  3. It’s easy to misinterpret signals. If you want your crush to ask you out, then stop playing games and tell him how you feel about him. If you want your boyfriend to pitch in more around the house, then stop making vague comments and bluntly tell him that he needs to do his fair share. Honesty works wonders, you know.
  4. He wants to know how you’re feeling. If he actually gives a crap about you, he won’t want to hurt your feelings. He’ll want to know what he’s done wrong, so he won’t make the same mistake in the future. If he loves you, then the last thing he wants is to make you cry.
  5. Healthy relationships involve communication. If you still want to be with him years from now, then you have to get used to talking to him about everything that’s been on your mind. Even the rough stuff. If you’re meant to be, then you’ll be able to handle all of the awkward conversations and petty arguments.
  6. The mind is a funny thing. Half of the time, you don’t even know how you’re feeling, so how can you expect your boyfriend to know? He’s not going to figure it out before you do.
  7. Making him guess just wastes time. You might think that he should know what he’s done wrong, but waiting for him to figure it out is only going to make the fight last longer. You might as well get everything off of your chest. Otherwise, you’re going to be pissed for much longer than you need to be.
  8. You don’t want to shut him out. When your boyfriend acts quiet and won’t tell you what’s wrong, you’ll feel like he’s pushing you away. That’s why you shouldn’t do the same thing to him. If you want him in your life, then act like he’s a part of your life by filling him in.
  9. No one knows you better than yourself. Sometimes, your own mother and BFF won’t be able to figure out how you’re feeling, so you can’t blame your boyfriend for not knowing, either. You’re giving him an impossible task.
  10. He’s trying his best. Even if he can’t figure out what he did wrong, you should give him credit for realizing out that you’re upset. Some men wouldn’t even notice that much.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.