Reminder: Most People Don’t Find True Love On Their First (Or 50th) Try

When a guy breaks your heart yet again, it can feel useless to keep trying to find love. Does it really exist — and even if it does, is it worth all the pain? Don’t lose hope. What you need to remember is that most people don’t find true love on their very first — or even their 50th — try.

  1. How many people do you know who married their high school sweetheart? Even fewer of those fairytale couples will actually stay married to each other because yes, high school sweethearts contribute to the divorce factor too. We all try and most of us will fail the first several dozen or so times. Just remember, it’s the failures that make success so magical.
  2. As awful as it may be, it’s good to experience heartbreak. It can actually make you a better lover and person in general. You have to go through the pain of losing love to realize how special it truly is. After you’ve had your heart broken, you know how to appreciate your next partner better and how to call it quits when you’re not getting what you need.
  3. Sometimes your heart has to break for everything else to come together. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? You don’t realize what you want from a guy and a relationship until you go through an unhealthy one (or several). The light at the end of the tunnel is finally realizing what you deserve — there’s no settling here, you need true love.
  4. Practice makes perfect. Sometimes going through a bad relationship teaches you what a good one looks like. You have to be a bad girlfriend to learn how to be a good one. Maybe you need to experience a lot of different relationships to find the one that fits. Like most things in life, when it comes to love, practice really does make perfect.
  5. There are so many fish in the sea. The odds of you finding the right one on your very first try are pretty low. You’re going to have to sift through a lot of dull sand for the treasure at the bottom. Not every guy you meet will be the man of your dreams but someday, one will.
  6. There’s no set age to find love. Your biological clock isn’t actually ticking. A few people might find love when they’re teenagers. Others will have to wait for their 20s, 30s, 40s and beyond. It doesn’t happen at the same time for all of us. After all, if you knew the exact moment your search would end, what fun would that be?
  7. Giving up pretty much ensures you’ll end up alone. You’re going to fall but you have to just pick yourself up and keep on trying. You’ll never forgive yourself if you don’t. You don’t deserve heartbreak, but sometimes you need it. If you give up on love, you’ll only have yourself to blame when you end up alone.
  8. When you find the one, it’ll all be worth it. All the boys that broke your heart will be a distant memory. All the tears you cried just made your eyes clear to finally see “The One.” You’re going to go through a lot of BS, but true love is out there and it’s always worth it in the end.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.