You Replaced Me So Quickly That It Felt Like I Was Never Really There

After we broke up, I expected you to move on at some point. What I didn’t expect was for you to let go, move on, and be so completely me within just a couple of weeks. I knew you’d replace me eventually, but you did it so fast that it felt like I was never really in your heart to begin with.

  1. I feel like a ghost. The thing is, I never ghosted you. One day I was the person who gave you life, and in the blink of an eye, I was dead to you. Now I have to watch you move on with someone else, watch you tell her the same things you told me and make her the same promises you made to me. You replaced me, but I’m still here and watching you with her is killing me.
  2. I thought we had something real. So much for that theory… I know my feelings for you were real but clearly, those emotions were one-sided. If you had real feelings for me or even cared about me at all, it would have taken you a hell of a lot longer to move on. For me, what we had was real, and that’s why I’m still struggling to get over it.
  3. You gave up on our future so quickly. We made so many plans. We mapped out our lives together. Once upon a time, we couldn’t even imagine our lives apart and then suddenly, all you wanted was a life with someone else. You gave up on our dream and you gave up on me as if that future we planned never really meant something to you.
  4. Our relationship was anything but casual. We spent years together and it was all for nothing. We weren’t just some casual fling. We were seriously in love, or so I thought. I was committed to you and meanwhile, you were looking for love somewhere else. I took our breakup as seriously as our relationship, but when you moved on that quickly, I felt like I was nothing more than a casual hookup.
  5. I wonder how long ago you checked out. When exactly did you stop believing in us? If you moved on that quickly when we ended, it makes me wonder how long before our breakup you started looking for someone else. It was like you were holding onto me just in case someone better came along, and when she did, you left me in the dust.
  6. I can’t help but wonder if you cheated. Even though you claim you never did. I trusted you to love me and that didn’t turn out so well, so how can I trust that you were faithful? If you could disrespect me so deeply just a couple weeks after we ended, how am I supposed to believe that you always respected me when we were together?
  7. I feel like such a fool. I honestly thought you were the one. I thought we found true love with each other, but now I don’t know what we had. You left me high and dry with no thought to how your actions would make me feel. All that time I thought we were soulmates and that you really loved me. Guess I learned a lesson — love makes me a damn fool.
  8. You made me feel like I was nothing. You threw me away like a piece of trash when someone new came along. I thought that I was special to you, but you showed me that you couldn’t care less about me or what we had. Breaking up was one thing but moving on so fast that I feel worthless is just plain cruel.
  9. I don’t blame her. I blame you, as I should. If you really loved me and were dedicated to me, you never would have strayed. You would still be by my side. She didn’t trick or manipulate you into leaving me. None of my heartbreak is her fault. You’re the one who was supposed to love me, you’re the one who was supposed to care and in the end, you’re the one who hurt me.
  10. I don’t know if you ever really loved me. Did I ever truly hold a place in your heart? You said I did, but your actions at the end say otherwise. If replacing me like I never existed is what you do to someone you love, I don’t even want to imagine how you’d treat someone you hate. The worst part is, not knowing if you ever really loved me didn’t stop me from loving you.
  11. After everything, it feels like our relationship wasn’t even real. All of our memories feel tainted. I thought you were fully invested and fully in love, but you sure fell out of it quickly. On one page, we were in love and the next page, you were writing a whole different love story with a whole different girl. Your life with me was over in a flash and it all happened so fast I wonder if any of our relationship was real or if I was never really there.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.