How To Resist The Urge To Cheat, Because Your Relationship Deserves More

You’re not a horrible person for thinking about cheating on your partner. Even when you’re with the love of your life, nasty thoughts are occasionally going to creep into your mind. No one is perfect. Of course, there’s a huge difference between thinking about cheating and actually doing so. Since your relationship will fall apart if you make an unfaithful move, you need to do your best to resist the urge to cheat.

  1. Think about how your partner would feel. Whenever you have the urge to cheat, think about how devastated your partner would be if they found out. It would break their heart, which is the last thing you want to do to the person you truly love. So if you genuinely care about your man, you’ll keep your lips to yourself.
  2. Eliminate temptations. If there’s a certain guy you’d love to sleep with, cut him out of your life. If you never see him or talk to him, then you won’t have the opportunity to cheat. When he’s out of sight, he’ll be out of mind, which means your boyfriend will be the only man occupying your thoughts.
  3. Find faithful friends. Your friends influence you more than you realize. If you have buddies or relatives who cheat, then there’s a higher chance that you’ll cheat, too. Once you see how easy it is, and realize that even “good” people are unfaithful, it’ll make you start to wonder if you should follow their lead.
  4. Masturbate more often. If your boyfriend isn’t having enough sex with you, then you should masturbate to get rid of your sexual frustration. The more orgasms you give yourself, the less time you’ll spend thinking about cheating. You don’t need two men in your life when your hands can give you all the pleasure you need.
  5. Talk to your partner about your issues. If you’ve been thinking about sleeping around, there must be something about your relationship that needs work. That’s why you should sit your partner down to discuss any issues you have with him. Once you solve your problems, then the urge to cheat might disappear completely.
  6. Think of the consequences. Yes, if your man finds out you cheated, then a break up is probably on the horizon. However, even if he never finds out, you’re going to be plagued with guilt. Cheating also causes paranoia, which means you’ll start to wonder if your partner is cheating on you, too. It’s a can of worms you don’t want to open.
  7. Remember that sex isn’t the answer. If you’re unhappy with your relationship, or with life in general, having sex with a stranger isn’t going to make you feel complete. There are other things you can do to make yourself smile, like learn how to play a new instrument or put in effort to receive a promotion. Those accomplishments will provide you with happiness that lasts longer than the fleeting happiness of a one-night stand.
  8. Bring your partner to parties. When you go to a party, it’ll be easier to resist the urge to cheat if your partner is right there with you. Whenever you get invited to a social event that you know will be filled with hot men, make sure your hot man is standing by your side.
  9. Roleplay in the bedroom. Some women cheat, because they’re bored of their partner. That’s why you should ask your man to try something new with you in the bedroom. If you roleplay as different characters, then it’ll feel like you’re having sex with someone else while still remaining faithful.
  10. Break up with him. You can’t cheat if you aren’t in a relationship. If you know you won’t be able to hold back from sleeping with a stranger, then do your partner a favor and break up with him before you’re unfaithful. It’ll hurt him less.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.