The Romantic Struggles Of Ambitious, Professional Women

We’re not all hopeless romantics obsessed with finding love. Most of us are more interested in climbing the career ladder than finding a man to climb on top of us. Even though it’s the twenty-first century, some people still don’t understand how we could care more about our careers than our love lives. That’s why we deal with these daily struggles:

  1. We’re misunderstood. It’s not that we don’t want to get married, or even have children. We just don’t prioritize getting a boyfriend over getting a promotion. If we find the right guy, we’ll make time for him. But until then, we’ll stay focused on our work.
  2. We’re belittled. Strong women who become mothers are called heroes. Meanwhile, strong women in the workplace are called bitches. We don’t think we’re better than stay-at-home mothers are, so why should any of them act like our lives are meaningless, unless we bear children?
  3. We deal with double standards. We’re closer to gender equality than ever before, but double standards still exist. Bachelors are rarely criticized for holding a high position at a company, but single women are ridiculed for choosing a career over a family life.
  4. Rom coms make a mockery of us. Nine out of ten times, career driven women in movies end up realizing that they need to let loose and stop working so hard, so that they can find a man and live happily ever after. They might even give up their job for him. However, that idea is insulting. We don’t need a man to feel fulfilled. Our job fulfills us, thank you very much.
  5. We’re told we need “to get laid.” Whenever we have a bad day, or make a decision that our coworkers don’t agree with, they’ll say that we need to get laid. It’s their way of telling us to calm down and stop taking life so seriously. Of course, no one ever makes that type of comment to a man when he takes charge.
  6. We’re accused of sleeping with the boss. After we work our asses off to get into a position of power, some people will actually assume that we slept with our boss in order to get our promotion. They think that the only way a pretty woman could do well in the workplace is by using her body. That’s about as offensive as it gets.
  7. Relatives think our jobs come second. When we go to family parties, the first thing our relatives ask is if we’re seeing someone. They might ask about work eventually, but it’ll only happen after they give us a lecture about how we should “put ourselves out there” to find love, because our “biological clocks are ticking.”
  8. It’s hard to find dates when we want to. We don’t have a chance to go out all that often, because we’re always working. Sure, there are some cute coworkers we’d love to ask out, but we don’t want to jeopardize our jobs by getting involved with them. They’re not worth the risk.
  9. We get into arguments with sexists. We aren’t accepting of ignorance. Heaven help anyone who says that a woman’s place is in the kitchen in front of us. They’re in for a world of pain.
  10. Everyone assumes we’re settling. Most people look at older, unattached women with pity, even if we’ve done well for ourselves in other areas of life. Why? Because they assumed we’ve settled for a life without children. Of course, that’s far from the truth. Look at Betty White or Oprah. They’ve never had any kids, but they still look like the happiest women in Hollywood.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.