Opinion: Rough Sex Is The Best Sex, Hands Down

Sex is amazing — it’s hands down one of the best things you can do with your time. There are so many ways to do it, too, and pretty much all of them feel amazing when you’ve got an attentive partner. I’m a pretty big fan of rough sex, personally — here’s why:

  1. The passion level is off the charts. When sex gets a little rough, it automatically ups the passion factor, and that’s never a bad thing. Some hair pulling here or a little slap on the butt there can intensify the act to new extreme pleasures.
  2. You can do it even if you’re mad at him. In fact, it’s almost like having an argument that’s really good for the both of you. Don’t want to fight anymore? There’s no better way to let out pent up frustration and aggression than some rough sex.
  3. It hurts in a good way. Sometimes, in the right circumstances, pain can feel good. When there’s a little ouch on your way to the orgasm, the mixing of sensations can make the act that much more exhilarating.
  4. It’s never boring. When it comes to having sex, although soft and sensual can be nice sometimes, it can get a little too routine and way too boring. While having rough sex, you never have to worry about whether or not you’re going to be in the zone the entire time, because there’s no way you can ignore it.
  5. It opens you up to different sexual experiences. Rough sex tends to open up the door for you to try different fantasies and other types of sex. It allows you and your partner to be inventive and experimental when it comes to positions, locations and maybe even role playing. Whatever your fantasy, there’s a good chance rough sex fits into it.
  6. It’s packed with emotion. It’s definitely possible to ‘make love’ at the same time as having rough sex because of how emotionally charged it is. And when emotions are involved, the sex is that much better.
  7. It goes back to the basics. Rough sex unleashes the primal instincts we all feel. We’re animals, after all, driven by these instincts, and when you add a little roughhousing in the bedroom, it satisfies those urges.
  8. I like being told what to do in the bedroom. I like a guy who will take charge and put me in my place in the bedroom. I have to be a boss all day, every day in my regular life, so when it comes to sex, I like to let go of a bit of that power and be led.
  9. Angry sex is just hotter. Literally and figuratively, there’s an aspect of hotness to angry, rough sex that just can’t be matched. You’re sweaty and revved up and this makes for some excellent tantric lovemaking.
  10. It lets you say things that you would otherwise never say. Want to get a little dirty talk in during your sex session? Well, rough sex is the best for it. I’d never let a man call me a dirty promiscuous woman in real life, but there’s something really hot about it when he’s inside me.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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