Some people might act like they’re above the search for love and are happy on their own, but let’s cut the BS — most of us want a real relationship. No matter how independent you act or how chill you are with living the single life, it’s important to have someone to come home to. Here’s why finding love will always be a priority for me:
- Sex when you’re in love beats the pants off casual sex. You might be a fan of “no strings attached” arrangements, but there’s nothing like the intimacy of sex when you’re in love. Connecting that deeply both mentally and physically is life-altering, and that’s what I’m after.
- It feels good to be wanted. Craving love is a natural human phenomenon. I’ve received and enjoyed love in other areas of my life, and finding romantic love is simply an extension of that desire. I know that being loved feels awesome, and it’s natural to want someone who can give me that every day.
- Relationships make you stronger. Real, true love will always change you in a positive way. It gets you out of your comfort zone and challenges your ideas. Even the end of love helps you grow because you have to find your way without it, and you come out stronger on the other side. Why wouldn’t I want those experiences?
- My life will be defined by love. Unless you’re a super celebrity or enacting major world changes, you’ll be remembered by how and who you loved. I want to be remembered for finding a person who makes me whole, and living a happy life because of love.
- I want to be with someone who knows me inside out. Sorry, BFFs, there’s nothing like opening up in a relationship. Romantic sex is one way to open up to another person (quite literally), and sharing my deepest desires and feelings is another. I crave someone to know the inner workings of my brain.
- Soulmates are a mystery, and who doesn’t love a good mystery? The idea of a single person that’s perfect for me is incredibly alluring. It’s an idea that has been around for centuries, and I’ve seen it actually happen — so why can’t it happen for me?
- It satisfies my yearn to have it all. Career, check. Self-love, check. Changing the world, check. It may seem crass, but finding love may just be another check on the “have it all” list. I want to feel satisfied that I’m living up to my potential, and having a full life that includes love verifies that.
- I’m all about the thrill. The first days of a relationship and subsequently falling in love are awesome. If you deny it, you’re doing it wrong. At some point, I’ll realize that I’ve finally uncovered the mystery that is love, and it’ll thrill me to my core.
- Love makes me happy. Whenever I’ve just gotten those “in love” feelings or I’ve been a happy long-term relationship for a while, I can’t ignore how much joy I feel around my partner. They somehow always make me smile. In a society where being happy is becoming a priority, finding love seems to be a great place to start.
