If You Screw Me Over, At Least Take Responsibility For It

You broke my heart — shattered it into a million little pieces — so don’t act like you’re innocent. You knew what you were doing when you screwed me over and that didn’t stop you, and while I know I’m better off without you, the least you could do is take responsibility for being such a loser.

  1. Don’t blame your ex. I’m so very sorry that your ex screwed you over, but that doesn’t give you the right to screw me over. Screw your baggage. You just broke my heart, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to be a loser to the next man I meet.
  2. A “sorry” wouldn’t kill you. How hard is it to give me a genuine apology? Even if you didn’t mean to hurt me, you still did. Saying sorry would only take you two seconds, and it would help me get closure, so it’s the least you could do.
  3. Don’t blame me. It’s not my fault for falling for you after you led me on for months. I don’t care if we never actually dated. You made me think that I had a real chance with you, so please just admit that you screwed me over. We both know the truth.
  4. All I want is honesty. I’m not asking for you to date me. I’m not asking for you to change your ways. I’m only asking you to tell me the truth. Is that too much to ask?
  5. Don’t blame your gender. Believe it or not, men are just as capable of staying faithful as women are. The “boys will be boys” excuse isn’t going to work on me. So don’t act like you’re destined to be a screw-up, just because you were born with a penis.
  6. There are consequences to your actions. You can’t sleep with random women and expect them all to be OK with a casual relationship. Some of us actually develop feelings after having sex. You can’t walk around doing whatever the hell you want without eventually getting reprimanded for it.
  7. Don’t blame the people around you. I don’t care if all of your friends are in FWB relationships. I don’t care if you grew up with crappy parents. They didn’t force you to do what you did, so take responsibility for your actions for a change.
  8. Admit it. If you only used me for sex, then admit it. If you only flirted with me in order to make yourself feel better about yourself, then admit it. If you’re too ashamed to say the words, then you should be too ashamed to do the deed.
  9. No, the timing isn’t wrong. Yes, the timing has to be right in order for a relationship to work. But that doesn’t mean that you can blame the universe without placing any blame on yourself. Man up and see yourself for what you are.
  10. You’re delusional. If you honestly believe that I have no right to be upset, and that everyone else in the world is to blame for your actions, then you have some real problems. If that’s the case, you shouldn’t be in a relationship at all. You should try working on yourself before you let another woman into your life.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.