If I Seem Desperate, It’s Only Because I Really Like You

I’m not dying to find a boyfriend — I can totally survive without one. Dating is low on my list of priorities, but when I finally find a guy I like, I can’t help but go all in. So if I seem desperate, it’s only because I really like you.

  1. I’m honest when I want something real. I’m not going to pretend I don’t give AF about you, just to look cool. If I like you, then I’m going to be honest with you from the start. I don’t care if admitting how much I like you breaks some ridiculous dating rule, because I’m going to do it, anyway.
  2. Trying doesn’t make me desperate. Sending you the first text and rearranging my schedule to hang out with you doesn’t make me needy. It just makes me a good girlfriend. I won’t apologize for trying to fit someone important into my life.
  3. I want you to know I’m serious about you. If I stop giving you attention to try to play it cool, you might assume that I’ve lost interest in you. I don’t want that to happen, and I’m not a fan of mind games, which is why I’m going to talk to you as much as I can.
  4. I won’t let a good guy get away. It’s rare to find a man that’s actually worth my time and effort. If I like you, then I’m not going to let you get away easily. I’m going to keep texting you until I find out how you feel, even if that means I end up looking a little desperate.
  5. I refuse to torture myself. If I want to talk to you, I’m going to talk to you. I won’t make myself suffer by waiting for you to send the first text. That’s a waste of perfectly good flirting time.
  6. I deserve to know where I stand. I’m not asking you if we’re dating in order to be pushy. I genuinely want to know what’s going on, so I don’t get my heart broken. I just want to be on the same page as you, because modern dating can be incredibly confusing.
  7. I’m willing to lose my dignity for love. Sending a double text can be embarrassing, but I’m willing to try it if I really like you. It means I’m dying to talk to you, so you should be flattered.
  8. I don’t waste my time with player. I don’t give every man my full attention. Players won’t get a single response from me, no matter how many texts they send. That’s why you should appreciate the fact that I’m giving you the attention that they wish they could have.
  9. I only try hard when it matters. If it looks like I’m trying too hard, it’s not because I’m pretending to be someone I’m not. I just really want to impress you, because I really like you. So give me a break.
  10. Not everything is about you. Even if I’m crazy about you, you’re not the center of my universe. I dress for me, so if I look like a bombshell at a party you happen to be at, it has nothing to do with you. That’s just me.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.