Opinion: If The Sex Isn’t Bomb, It’s Time To Move On

If you’re not satisfied with your sex life, it’s really only a matter of time before your relationship fails. Great sex is crucial in a long-term relationship, and no one should have to sacrifice their future orgasms because they feel guilty about needing a better lay. If the sex is bad, be honest with yourself about your needs and move on instead of wasting everyone’s time.

  1. Mind-blowing sex is the difference between a partnership and a great romance. Sure, some couples have long lasting, sexless relationships that are fulfilling in certain ways. Those relationships can be great friendships and solid life partnerships, but they will never be intense or fiery romances. If passion is what you need, you have to find someone who can give it to you.
  2. Make-up sex is the glue that keeps you together after a brutal fight. Normal, healthy couples fight every now and then, but getting over a brutal argument can be tricky. Hot make-up sex is the quickest and most effective way to get things back on track and ditch your sad feelings once you’ve reached a resolution. Without good make-up sex, arguments are more likely to slowly chip away at your relationship over the years.
  3. Monogamy comes easily to the satisfied couple. Staying faithful long term is a struggle for a lot of people. When you have an opportunity to cheat, which you will eventually, turning down that temptation will be easy if you’re sexually satisfied at home.
  4. Getting some on the regular is part of a healthy lifestyle. Regular, satisfactory sex is necessary for a healthy mind and body! Settling for crummy sex isn’t a normal compromise you have to make when picking a life partner, it is quite literally bad for you. There’s no shame in asserting that your well-being is important, even if that means you have to find someone new.
  5. You deserve to experience amazing, life-changing orgasms. A great orgasm is one of the best experiences a human can have. Why would you want to miss out on that? It’s a huge thing to sacrifice for another person, and it’s a sacrifice you’ll likely regret. You deserve that experience and should find someone you can have it with.
  6. If the sex is just OK, it’ll inevitably become a chore. Bad or mediocre sex isn’t really something you can make the best of for a lifetime. It’ll start to feel like a chore, and then stop happening altogether. That’s probably not the future you envisioned for yourself, so be realistic about how many years of unsatisfactory sex you can actually live with. It’s most likely not many.
  7. If you’re with a great lover, you’ll never get bored. Relationships can become stale or boring, but not with a great lover on your team. You will always have something fun to do, even when you’re broke or snowed in. When the sex is good, it’ll change and evolve over time instead of becoming a lame routine.
  8. The anticipation of amazing sex will enhance every date night. Every date night will be better when you know there will be mind blowing sex at the end of it. You’ll feel sexy, happy, and connected. Romance comes easy to couples that have great sex, and they have a hard time keeping their hands off each other on date night.
  9. Bad sex leads to resentment. You’re doomed to end up bitter and resentful towards your partner. You will hate engaging in crummy sex with them, worry about what you are missing out on, and regret choosing someone who just doesn’t do it for you. On top of all that, you will be sexually frustrated all the time.
  10. If your partner doesn’t care about your sexual needs, he’ll will most likely neglect your other needs in life. If your partner truly cares about your needs and well being, he’ll put the effort in to up his sex skills and get you where you need to go. Ignoring your needs in the bedroom is a symptom of a selfish person, and it’s only a matter of time before that self centered attitude screws you over in a different area of your life.
  11. It’s a beautiful expression of love. Some people feel that good sex isn’t necessary as long as you have love, but the two concepts aren’t so simply untangled. Love enhances sex and sex enhances love. Having sex can be a beautiful way to express yourself and your love for your partner, especially for those who aren’t so great with words.
  12. A real sexual connection will last for decades. A sexual connection is something that’s more than skin deep. You’re not just attracted to this person physically, but he also stimulates you mentally and makes you feel safe and powerful. Even after your looks fade, it will still be fire between the sheets. The longer you’re together, they happier you’ll be that you didn’t settle for anything less than fire.
Holly Harris is a freelance writer, full time student, and mommy to a toddler sass monster. In her (nearly nonexistent) free time, you can find her lifting something heavy in her home gym or chugging vodka sodas with friends. She contributes to several other sites, including Elite Daily.