People make sex out to be such a big deal. Am I the only one who’s not convinced it’s all it’s cracked up to be? It doesn’t matter who I’m dating—if I really want to get up close and personal with a guy, I’m going in for the kiss.
- Kissing is instant gratification. If I feel like having sex, most of the time I’m going to need to wait a while for an appropriate moment to whisk my BF to bed. Kissing is quick, easy gratification that I can get pretty much any time of day or night (except in more reserved public spaces). I’m an affectionate person and kissing is like coffee through my day.
- Sex is awkward. It’s not the effortless transition from making out to making love that the movies imply—it’s a sort of awkward silent agreement that you make with someone and then troop off to the bedroom. Then when you’re in bed, do you make eye contact or let the guy focus on his game? With kissing, I know where I stand and I like it that way.
- Making out is more intimate. In most sex positions, there’s a good deal of space between your face and your BF’s—half the time you’re not even facing the same way! How people can find that more intimate than making out is beyond me. When you’re kissing someone, you’re up close, cuddled up to them, and it’s all about that moment. Sex feels so distant in comparison.
- I don’t have to shave my legs. It’s no exaggeration to say that I’m ready for the kiss of my life any time of day or night—all I need is chapstick and I’m good to go. Sex, on the other hand, is a totally different ball game. From shaving and slathering lotion all over myself to choosing attractive underwear and making sure I’ve hidden my teddy pajamas, there’s just so much more effort involved. No thanks.
- Kissing is all about you. It’s very difficult to be a bad kisser once you’ve had a bit of practice, so it’s easy to please the person you’re with. When my boyfriend and I are kissing, I completely forget about the world around me. During sex, on the other hand, people seem to automatically become a bit selfish. Maybe it’s that natural instinct that comes out in us, but it feels like you’re much more in it for yourself than anyone else, and men are the same. I come away from sex feeling dissatisfied far more often than I do a good make-out sesh.
- Making out is more playful. People say that sex is playful, but I’ve rarely found that to be the case. By the time I’ve worried if I’m doing it right and whether the other person is having a good time, I’m far too out of breath to start playing games. Kissing for the sake of kissing with no end game in mind is far more fun to me.
- It doesn’t have to lead anywhere. There’s so much pressure on sex to lead up to this big climactic moment that you come away feeling like a failure if it wasn’t quite as mind-blowing as the time before. With kissing, there are no expectations, which means I relax and enjoy myself much quicker. Spending time making out with no suggestion that it has to lead to anything more is the most fun you can have as a couple.
- Kissing is more romantic. Kissing means getting to cuddle up close to someone and be their whole world for a moment. A guy that wants to kiss me every minute of the day makes me feel far better about myself than someone who keeps trying to get into my pants. Kissing shows someone cares about me and wants to show it.
- I don’t always want sex but I’m always in the mood for a kiss. There are days when I’m just not in the mood for sex. Maybe I’m tired, I’m on my period, or just feeling flat. In all of these scenarios, making out works like a charm on my mood. Kissing is the best pick me up when sex isn’t on the cards, and it’s a way of being close to someone without having to find hours of time alone.
- A guy that kisses well is a keeper. People might rave about a guy that’s good in bed, but a good kisser who’s affectionate AF is a real keeper. I need someone that gets how amazing making out for the sake of making out is. Because, when sex just won’t cut it, a guy that knows how to kiss is all I need.
