If you want great sex, get into a relationship. It sounds counterintuitive, but it’s true. Your sex life with the guy you’re in love with will be so much better than it was when you were single, and this is why:
- Relationship sex is part of something bigger. The sex isn’t the best part of the evening when you’re in love, unlike when you’re hooking up with a guy you don’t really know. It can be mind-blowing, yes, but it’s just one part of a great connection you’ve got going with your BF.
- Your connection is more than skin deep. Not to sound like a hippie or anything, but sex when you’re in love is more than physical: it’s spiritual. It’s like there’s this incredible closeness that happens, and when it does, it not only makes orgasms that much more intense but also makes you feel connected right down to your very souls.
- You can enjoy it again and again with the same guy. Okay, so it might be fun to get a regular booty call routine going with a guy you’re casually dating, but that’s nothing compared to being able to have real, meaningful sex with a guy who loves you and wants to make you happy both inside and outside of the bedroom.
- You leave physical inhibition at the door. Sex with a new guy is always nerve-wracking. But once you’re in love, you start to shed your insecurities, which makes sex so much more enjoyable and allows you enjoy it without reservations.
- It’s a safe place to explore. When you want to do kinkier stuff, who’s a better partner than your boyfriend? You’ve got a safe, trusting place to explore, and it’s not riddled with the awkwardness of trying out weird stuff with a stranger.
- You don’t have to bite your tongue after bad sex. Telling a guy you’re sleeping with but not dating that the sex wasn’t great? That’s not exactly a comfortable conversation you want to have anytime soon. But if the sex with the man you love is less than satisfying, you can talk to him about it. You own your sexual gratification so much more when you’re in a relationship.
- You can have a good laugh. Come on, what’s better than being able to laugh in the middle of sex? It’s awesome to have fun and be relaxed with your BF without worrying that he’ll think you’re a weirdo.
- You can express your love with sex. Sex is an amazing way to feel physically satisfied as well as give and receive pleasure, but when you’re with someone you’re crazy about, it’s so much more than that: It’s a way to show each other how much you love each other.
- You don’t have to leave afterward. Casual sex can lead to some awkward AF situations, like wondering if you should start dressing the second it’s over and bolt before he starts making excuses about how busy his day’s going to be. But with the man you love, you can sleep together (like, actually SLEEP together) after an amazingly hot session of sex.
- You don’t have to do crazy stuff all the time. Be honest: sometimes thinking about what you should be doing differently in the sack to keep that casual booty call interested is exhausting. Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to have a bit of vanilla sex for a while with someone who loves hooking up with you in any shape or form? When you’re in love, there’s plenty of time and space to both try out new positions AND stick with whatever is easy and comfortable.
- The romance doesn’t have to end in the bedroom. You don’t have to end the romance once the sex ends. Being in a loving relationship means that you can take those feelings outside of the bedroom, too. Fuzzy feelings, y’all!
- You trust each other more. Sex with strangers might feel exciting, but it’s also scary. You never know what their sexual history is, and even with protection, there’s always the fear that the condom will break and expose you to STDs. Being exclusive with the guy you love means that you minimize your risk of that stuff happening to you, so you can relax and enjoy yourself.
