The Sexiest Quality A Guy Can Have Is The Ability To Laugh At Himself

A life without laughter is a total waste. Humor can fix a bad mood, make a day brighter, and be the glue that keeps a relationship together. A guy who takes himself too seriously is a total turn-off. I need a man who doesn’t just laugh with me but can laugh at himself too.

  1. We all say/do/think dumb stuff. I’m a very smart woman but if I had a dime for everything I said or did that wasn’t my brightest moment, I’d still be rich. We’re all human, and humans are wonderfully imperfect. Instead of wallowing in embarrassment, I’ve learned to let loose and laugh at myself, and I need a guy who can do the same. No one wants to be around someone who’s hyper critical of himself all the time.
  2. You don’t have to perfect to be confident. You can be totally confident without having a stick up your ass, and I want the best of both worlds. The most confident guys know that even when they dance like idiots, use that awful high-pitched voice to mock someone or dress up in a crazy costume, they still have it going on. That self-assurance is sexy as hell and it won’t go unnoticed by me.
  3. I’ll follow his lead. In the beginning of a relationship, it can be hard for both of us to show our silly sides to each other, especially because we don’t know for sure how the other will react. If a guy I’m dating has no problem tapping into his crazy and isn’t afraid to make a fool of himself, I’m going to feel so much more comfortable following suit and being myself. The faster we learn each other’s weird quirks, the closer we’ll become.
  4. We’ll get to know each other faster. Without the falsities of pretending we’re both perfect, hiding the parts of ourselves that other significant others have said are annoying or trying to change for each other, our path to falling in love will be a straight shot. A few months with someone who isn’t afraid to be himself is going to feel like a lifetime.
  5. Everyone has guilty pleasures. Whether it’s chick flicks, watching re-runs on Bravo or belting out the lyrics to a ’90s boy band hit, all guys do something they don’t want their bros to know about. I want to not only know his secret obsessions but enjoy them with him. There’s nothing hotter than a guy who owns his Britney Spears impression in the shower.
  6. Trust will come easier. Knowing he trusts me enough to be his true self, even if it means acting totally ridiculous sometimes, will make me that much less likely to doubt him. When we can be crazy together, I’m more likely to tell him my secrets and open up about the serious stuff, which in turn leads to a better relationship down the line.
  7. Silly can be sexy. No one said pillow talk has to be serious and I couldn’t agree more. Sex, especially at the beginning, can be awkward with someone new, so being able to laugh at the outtakes as we get to know each other’s dos and don’ts when it comes to intimacy is a must. It’s such a turn on to have a guy who isn’t afraid to laugh and play in the bedroom.
  8. My family will appreciate a solid goofy side. If he’s the guy running around playing tag with my little cousins or taking over family game night with that hilariously embarrassing board game, he’ll have my heart in no time. My family is nothing if not rowdy and fun, and I need a man who can fit in with the energy.
  9. Every adventure becomes even more fun. They say we make plans and God laughs, and it’s so true. No trip or endeavor turns out how it’s supposed to, and being able to go with the flow is crucial to be successful with me. I want a man who isn’t afraid to look ridiculous wherever we are because all he’s focused on is having a great time.
  10. Rigidity is toxic. My ex wasn’t just incapable of laughing at himself, he also held me to impossible standards he couldn’t seem to let go of, causing us both to be miserable. Life is messy and things don’t always go our way. I need someone who isn’t afraid to step outside the box because he realizes that taking life too seriously is the best way to waste it.
  11. Laughter is the best medicine. No matter how crappy my day was, if he can get me laughing and joking, everything else will seem small in comparison. I want a man who does whatever he can to cheer me up, even if it means dancing around the living room or singing along to Frozen on DVD. The way to my heart isn’t being uptight and professional all the time, it’s knowing when the time and place call for fun.
We only have one chance to live this life and I'm making the most of it. I'll make plenty of mistakes along the way but each one will send me further down the right path.