Sexual Chemistry Is Great, But Do You Have Textual Chemistry? Here’s How To Tell

Sexual chemistry is great, but in the modern dating world, textual chemistry as just as important. Here’s how you know if you and the guy you’re dating can bond just as well through your phones as you do in real life:

  1. You lose track of time during conversations. You lose an entire evening texting with this guy. It’s an amazing feeling to jump into a conversation that just flows so well that it makes you forget about the world.
  2. You look forward to his texts. There’s no worry about what you’ll say the next time he sends you a message or if the text will be awkward. Your chats are always fun, and you’re excited when your phone lights up with his name.
  3. You don’t fear you’re going to get ghosted. With so many people getting ghosted, it’s normal to feel worried that the guy you’re texting will disappear on you mid-conversation. But this guy clearly makes the effort to initiate conversation, and you never feel like he’s just going to read your text one day and never respond.
  4. You text each other often. It’s not just the quality of the texts that’s great, but also the quantity. You almost always have some sort of a conversation in progress, and he’s normally the first person you text in the morning and the last person you text before you go to bed.
  5. You don’t have to double textYou know that feeling when you’ve sent a guy a text and he hasn’t answered, so you’re tempted to resend what you wrote? This guy never makes you feel like he’s ignoring your messages, so you never feel the need to do that with him.
  6. Your flirting styles match. You get each other when it comes to flirting and sexting. He doesn’t send awkward penis pictures or make you laugh out loud when he tries to write nonsensical “erotic” messages. Flirting with him feels sexy, not uncomfortable AF.
  7. You don’t need emojis. Those cutesy graphics are fun to use, but you don’t find them necessary to get your message across or fill an awkward silence. There’s only so much a clenched-teeth emoji can tell you about someone’s day, after all.
  8. You’re not only sexting. Sure, a bit of flirting is cool to show that you have chemistry, but it’s not the only thing that you’re doing via text. You can chat about other things without it always turning dirty. Plus, he doesn’t only hit you up late at night, which would scream that he’s just looking for some fun.
  9. You don’t reserve texting each other for when you’re bored. It might be fun to text him between meetings at work when you want some excitement, but you don’t use your conversations simply to kill time. You make it a priority to text each other whether you’re lying in bed or on your lunch break at work.
  10. You don’t worry about what you’ll talk about in person. Of course you both want to hang out IRL, but when you’re able to get together in person, you don’t feel like you’ve used up all your conversation topics through texting. You always have lots to discuss whether you’re looking at your screen or into each other’s eyes.
  11. You don’t have to initiate contact all the time. There’s nothing worse than having to be the one to always message first. When you have textual chemistry, you both initiate contact so that it’s balanced, showing that you both really like talking to each other.
  12. You don’t feel the need to silence his texts. It’s a really good sign that you’re on the same page if you don’t feel the need to silence your phone because he’s always sending you messages. This guy gives you some space during your day to do what you need to do instead of becoming a stage-five clinger. You both manage to strike a perfect balance between texting a lot and still leading your own lives.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.