I Dropped A Sexy Pic In A Random Dude’s DMs & I Regret Nothing

I never thought I’d be sending a random dude a half-naked picture of myself but it happened. Turns out, it was pretty awesome for both of us and I regret nothing.

  1. It was totally thrilling to do something so “naughty.” It was a wild ride. I had so many endorphins going, my body was all tingly and excited and I couldn’t stop smiling. It was like I was riding a roller coaster. I had moments where I thought, “OMG, do NOT do that, it’s a terrible idea” and other, more frequent moments where I thought, “This is a fabulous idea, DEFINITELY do it.” The ups and downs were crazy but it was totally worth it in the end.
  2. I liked the shock factor. I very much enjoy shocking men when it comes to sexual things. For example, I like to surprise people in bed by letting them see that I’m a total freak the moment we’re in the sheets. It was the same with this situation. The guy was completely shocked and never saw it coming. He was thrown off but in the best way possible. I definitely knocked his socks off and got a kick out of it myself.
  3. I enjoyed the compliments. Let’s be real, it’s a super nice feeling (and tons of fun) to be worshiped. This guy had been DMing me compliments for months and they were always really sweet. I got a bunch more when I dropped the pic, leaving me blushing and feeling like a queen. I don’t need someone else’s approval to know that I’m enough but it sure helps.
  4. I asked permission first. Note that I didn’t just drop it without asking. I asked first if it was OK if I sent him a sexy picture. I was just thinking of all the times I’ve gotten unsolicited dick pics in my DM or inbox and I cringed. I’d never want to do that to someone else, though I highly doubted that he’d be upset if I did it without asking. Still, consent works both ways and I wanted to make sure I had it before I went there.
  5. He’s hot as hell and a genuinely nice guy, so why not? Sure, it was cool to get compliments from him and whatnot, but I did it because I think he’s a total babe. He’s super hot and I know he thinks the same about me. Beyond being sexy, he’s a really nice guy. I knew that he wouldn’t share the pic with our mutual friends or do anything gross like that. I trusted him with my picture and I don’t regret it.
  6. I definitely made his day. He was like a kid on Christmas when I dropped the pic. It was pretty cool to see him so happy and excited and to know it was because of me. I know that my pic was the best part of his day, maybe even his entire week. I mean, how often do girls drop sexy pics into guys’ inboxes? Basically never. It was a moment of glory for him.
  7. It’s not like I do it all the time. If anyone’s judging me, well, that’s your problem. It’s not something I do all the time. I imagine it’d be far less thrilling if I did it on the regular. Instead, it was just a moment of desiring to be a bit wild and sexual. I’d definitely do it again if the moment was right since it was a pretty positive experience.
  8. There’s nothing wrong with it. Even if I did constantly send sexy pics to random dudes on the internet, there’d be nothing wrong with that. It wouldn’t make me a slut or any other insulting word women are called. Screw that. Women are able to express our sexuality in whatever way we want as long as it isn’t hurting anyone else. I’d never put a stamp of morality on an action like this because morals are irrelevant here.
  9. I’m single and I can do whatever I want. I often think about the confines of being in a relationship because I obviously couldn’t do something like this if I had a partner. Being single is so fun, I can talk to however many people I want and do whatever I want. This was something that I chose to do and it doesn’t affect anyone else but the person and me.
  10. I don’t want to hook up with him or anything. I did pause to consider for a moment what kind of message this was sending him. Was he going to think that I’m DTF? I’m really not at the moment and I’m glad he didn’t get the wrong idea. He hasn’t asked to hang out, he just kindly thanked me for the gift.
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at ginelletesta.com.