A Shy Guy Reveals Why You Should Give More Introverted Men A Chance

Ladies, if you’re having trouble finding the right guy, perhaps you need to change up the type of guy you date. As a shy and introverted guy myself, I know that we don’t always look great on paper. We’re not always fun, outgoing, and exciting to be around. I get that. But you might have learned growing up that you should never judge a book by its cover. There’s a lot to like about shy guys that make us ideal boyfriends if I do say so myself. You just have to give us a chance.

  1. We’re good listeners. First of all, shy means quiet, and quiet means we’re listeners rather than talkers. Shy guys aren’t worried about what we’re going to say next. Instead, we’re focused on what you’re saying and genuinely listening to you. Honestly, we’re just happy that you’re filling the silence. In fairness, there can be some awkward silences with shy guys, but we don’t necessarily think of them as awkward. We just prefer to be quiet and if you want to talk, we’ll gladly be all ears.
  2. We don’t stray. If you’re always worried about whether a guy is cheating on you, giving a shy guy a chance could be a good idea. I won’t claim that there aren’t exceptions to this, but most shy guys remain faithful to their partners. After all, we’re not going to flirt with other women in front of you or be overly aggressive in pursuing someone. That means we don’t have many opportunities to cheat, nor do we try to create opportunities to cheat. Most of us tend to be content with what we have when we’re in a committed relationship. With a shy guy, you’ll rarely have to worry about his fidelity.
  3. We keep the attention on you. Shy guys don’t like the spotlight, which is why we try to keep the focus on you. We usually prefer not to talk too much about ourselves if we can help it. In fairness, that can have some drawbacks. We’re not always going to be an open book with people, at least until we learn to trust them. But when you date a shy guy, you can be guaranteed to have all the attention you’ll ever want or need.
  4. Our friends are chill. Guys who are shy and low-key typically have friends who also fit that mold. In other words, if you meet a shy guy you like, expect more of the same from his friends, which can surely have its benefits. His group of friends will have limited amounts of craziness and drama. Everybody will be chill but will know how to have a good time without stirring up trouble, which means way less stress for you, especially on guys’ nights.
  5. You can bring us out of our shells. With most shy guys, once we start to feel comfortable with someone, we start to loosen up a bit and really open up. Surprisingly, we can be fun and high-energy at times. It just takes some time to get there. We’re only comfortable showing that side to certain people. If you can get a shy guy to relax and open up a little, it can be quite rewarding.
  6. We’re great conversationalists. Outgoing guys may talk more, but that doesn’t make them interesting. I don’t mean to offend but it’s true. Meanwhile, guys who are quiet and reserved tend to be smart and introspective. We spend more of our time thinking, which means we choose our words carefully. If you give one a chance, you might find that he has a lot to say and can be more interesting to talk to than a gregarious guy who won’t shut up.
  7. We’re willing to get serious. Casual flings don’t always gel with someone who has a quiet and reserved quality. I mean, shy guys aren’t usually the ones chatting up a lot of women in search of a one-night stand. When you’re shy, it’s a little harder to meet women and convince them to date you. That means when we find someone, we’re in for the real thing. When we feel a connection with someone, we’re open to a serious relationship. If you hate it when guys play games, you usually don’t have to worry about that with one of us.
  8. We’re thoughtful and considerate. Okay, so I’m not saying outgoing guys can’t be thoughtful and considerate too, but since we’re quiet, we’re able to absorb information a lot better. We listen to you and remember the important things you tell us. That means we grow to understand what you like, what you don’t like, and what makes you tick. That allows us to be more thoughtful in the way we treat you because we know how to surprise you and how to make you happy. In the end, isn’t that what’s most important?
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.