Sick Of Being Single? Here’s What You Need To Remember

Sick Of Being Single? Here’s What You Need To Remember ©iStock/DeanDrobot

When you’ve been single for longer than you want to admit, people love to say that you’ll meet your perfect person when you’re not looking or that the wait will be worth it. Sometimes it’s comforting, but most of the time, it’s super annoying. If you’re sick of being single, read on.

  1. You’re getting the bad guys out of your system. Most women don’t marry their first boyfriend, which means you’re going to have to navigate the dating scene at some point. You’ll probably meet a few nice guys and way more jerks, but the whole kissing frogs to find your prince thing is true — you’ll eventually weed out the jerks to find the perfect guy for you, and the lessons you learned along the way will help you get there.
  2. You’re doing everything right. You put yourself out there as much as possible. You’re on every dating app, you’re open to being set up, and you flirt with guys that catch your eye and have no problem actually asking them out. You’re open to love, and eventually it’ll pay off.
  3. You’re more than a catch. You already know this, but it’s worth repeating. You’re not single because you’re a loser — you’re single because you haven’t met the right guy yet. Period. Never forget that you’re more than a catch and any guy would be lucky to be with you.
  4. You’re still learning. Bad dates obviously suck, but with each one, you learn more about who and what you want and what traits creep you out. This is hard-earned knowledge that you need to eventually find your soulmate, so don’t think you’re doing anything wrong.
  5. You’re smart and experienced. You may not feel like it if your life is a stream of first dates that don’t end up in a relationship, but you are. You’ve met different kinds of people, and the more dates you go on, the better you’ll get at leaving before things get weird. You’ll stop wasting your own time and will be that much closer to love.
  6. Everyone is single at some point. Yes, even your best friend with the most amazing love story you know. Ask anyone with a boyfriend and you’re guaranteed to hear sob stories about horrible dinner dates and mean exes.
  7. You will find love. You don’t believe it, but that’s OK — the universe knows it for you. You’re not supposed to be alone forever. You’re just on your own right now.
  8. You’re allowed to feel crappy sometimes. Being pissed over a guy cancelling a date or refusing to commit to you doesn’t make you weak. It actually makes you strong because you won’t let anyone treat you badly. Society seems to think that single women have to be happy and positive all the time but don’t listen to that. Feel however you want to feel.
  9. You should talk to your friends. It’s easy to feel distant from the people in your life, especially when you’re not feeling too great about yourself. But talking to your friends will make you realize that you’re all in the same boat.
  10. You have to hang in there. You’ve probably thought about never dating again, but where would that get you? You’re going to stay single if you don’t date. That’s just how it goes. So you might as well keep going, keep meeting people, and hold your head high. Being single is not a way of life, it’s just your reality right now. Stop believing it’ll last forever and you just might get what you want.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.