12 Signs Your Boyfriend Is Feeling Jealous, According To A Guy

Many guys aren’t all that keen to openly express how they’re feeling, which often leaves our partners wondering what we’re thinking and where they stand with us. While actions speak louder than words and some behaviors are a little easier to interpret than others, if you’re wondering whether your boyfriend’s feeling jealous, keep an eye out for these signs. Chances are, he’s feeling insecure in the relationship or threatened by something or someone else in your life and doesn’t know how to deal with it.

  1. He tries to make you jealous. When a guy is jealous but doesn’t want to admit it, his instinct will likely be to make you jealous. In his mind, that’s the only fair way to approach things. Even if it’s out of character for him, he might try to flirt with other girls in front of you or find other ways to show you he has other options or make you feel the way he’s feeling.
  2. He asks a lot of questions. Typically, you want a guy to be interested in your life and asking a lot of questions, but when he’s jealous, he’ll give you the third degree. He’ll want to know where you’ve been and who you’ve been with when he’s not around. It’s almost like he’s a detective and you’re a suspect. He wants to know everything to know if he should be jealous or not.
  3. He gives you the silent treatment. Rather than asking a lot of questions, some guys go in the other direction when they get jealous. He’ll give you the silent treatment and just recede into themselves. Being jealous makes him upset, which makes him want to pull away, which can also be a way to get your attention.
  4. He shuts down when you mention other guys. This is another form of giving you the silent treatment. In fact, talking about other guys is just about the worst thing you can do when your boyfriend is jealous. The life and energy just get sucked out of him when he hears any mention of other guys.
  5. He never wants to leave your side. Not only does this scream neediness, but it can also be an indication of jealousy. It might seem nice that he wants to be around you, but really, he doesn’t want anyone else to be around you. Even if it’s your lady friends, his jealousy means he wants to be the only one who gets close to you.
  6. He wants to know why you didn’t text back. Talk about a role reversal, right? When a jealous guy doesn’t hear back from you right away, he gets upset because he doesn’t know why you aren’t texting him back. His imagination starts running wild with possibilities, which makes him upset and makes him want to know exactly why you aren’t responding to him. Are you talking to other guys? Are you thinking about leaving him?
  7. He has random fits of rage. There are times when anger and jealousy are two sides of the same coin. One way that some guys show their jealousy is by yelling and showcasing their anger in other ways. It’s not a pretty sight and sometimes jealousy can be the root cause.
  8. He’s overly sweet and attentive. Okay, so you don’t want to be suspicious when he starts being sweet to you and showering you with attention, but it can be suspicious when it’s a little out of character and comes out of nowhere. This can mean that a guy is jealous and worried about losing you. His response is to give you plenty of attention and affection because he’s worried that someone might steal him from you.
  9. He spontaneously stops by. As mentioned, jealous guys always want to know what you’re doing. If you don’t tell them and you don’t return their texts, they might orchestrate a spontaneous visit to your home or where you work. He might pass it off as an accident or say that he’s concerned about you, but deep down his jealousy is driving him to make sure you’re not with someone else.
  10. He insists nothing is wrong. If in your gut you sense something is wrong with a guy, there probably is. If he says that there isn’t, don’t believe him. Jealous guys won’t admit that they’re jealous or that there’s something up, but if he protests too much, jealousy could be the reason for his denial.
  11. He becomes your bodyguard. When you’re out in public with a guy who’s prone to jealousy, he probably won’t leave your side. Even in social situations where you’re expected to mingle, he’ll follow you everywhere. He’ll think that any other guy who talks to you might be a threat. That means he’ll stick close to you like a bodyguard out of jealousy and also because he doesn’t trust you.
  12. He seeks reassurance. Jealousy and insecurity often go together. If your boyfriend is jealous, he’ll try to get you to reaffirm your feelings for him. For whatever reason, he doesn’t trust that you want to be with him, which drives his jealous feelings. That means he needs to hear you say that you want him and that he has nothing to worry about.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.