Crying regularly, talking about your feelings, and needing affection are totally normal and OK. However, these things can come as a bit of a shock if you’re suddenly dating someone who’s super emotional when you’re not. Is this your guy?
- He constantly asks how you’re feeling. Emotional people always lead with their hearts (and not always their heads) so you might find that your guy asks for reassurance a lot. He’s open, honest, and not afraid to question you about where he stands when it comes to your relationship.
- He talks about his feelings. A lot. Whether you ask him or not, he keeps you apprised of his current emotional state. Whether it’s the big picture or the minute details, a highly emotional guy is very direct and likes to cover all bases. Some might say that he talks more than he acts, which can be exhausting to who are not used to talking about feelings all the time (or prefer not to).
- He says “I love you” super early on. This kind of guy nearly always says “I love you” before his partner. In fact, sometimes he divulges this information way too early and ends up scaring the other person off. This comes from the fact that if he feels something, then he just has to tell you—regardless of the timing.
- He’s very affectionate. In addition to being very soft and fluffy with his words, a highly emotional guy tends to be very physical. He likes to show you just how much you mean to him by holding your hand, touching your arm, kissing you, and cuddling you—heck, he might even prefer this gentle affection to actually having sex.
- He’s all about the big romantic gestures. Since he’s all about the lovey-dovey stuff, a highly emotional guy likes to shower you with gifts as well as affection. Big romantic gestures are his jam, from sending flowers to your office to serenading you with a slow love song outside your house. He’s thoughtful, generous, and never misses an anniversary.
- He loves watching chick flicks. Speaking of big romantic gestures, a guy who’s all about the feels gets his ideas from chick flicks because he absolutely adores them. In fact, he doesn’t wait for you to watch them—he’ll happily watch them on his own. Why? That’s just how much he enjoys love stories.
- He cries more than the average person. Love stories are likely to make a highly emotional guy cry. In fact, he might cry pretty easily about a number of things—a song on the radio, a diaper commercial, etc. Don’t be alarmed if it happens. He’s just in touch with his feelings (and that’s a good thing).
- He often takes jokes the wrong way. His deep sensitivity means that a highly emotional guy can take jokes at his expense in the wrong way, even if you’re just poking fun at him or being extremely sarcastic. Sometimes you might have to emphasize that you’re joking so that he doesn’t take it personally.
- He’s very confrontational. Moreover, everything is a big deal to a highly emotional guy. He likes everything to be out in the open so that there are no secrets or any reason for him to feel paranoid or confused. Because of this, you have to be prepared to talk about why you snapped at him before you walked out of the door for work (even if you didn’t mean to) and your reason for not inviting him to your sister’s get-together on Saturday. He’s not afraid to confront you if it means that it clears the air and he can make his feelings heard.
- You feel like you have to be careful what you say. Sometimes being around a highly emotional guy can feel like hard work even though he would be really upset to hear you say that. You might even feel like you’re walking on eggshells or he’s overpowering you with affection when you prefer to keep to yourself. However, there are actually many benefits to being with someone who wears his heart on his sleeve. Look at it this way: at least you’ll always know where you stand.
