If you want to get married one day, step one is finding a guy who views you as “wife material” (and one you consider “husband material,” of course). Some guys may like you a lot without necessarily seeing you as someone they could marry one day. Unfortunately, short of flat-out asking a guy if he’d ever want to put a ring on it, it’s not always easy to tell what he’s thinking and feeling. Here are some signs to look out for.
He’s endlessly curious about you.
You should be able to tell when a guy shows a seemingly endless amount of interest in you. He wants to soak up every part of you and learn everything he can about you. If he always seems fascinated by you and is always paying attention, it’s a good sign that he’ll want to keep knowing you forever. Men sometimes worry about getting bored once they get married, so if he’s regularly enthralled, that’s a good sign.
He’s loose and comfortable around you.
To be fair, you don’t want him to get too comfortable and take you for granted, but this does mean he’s comfortable being his true self in your presence. That’s important for any guy when thinking about marriage. We don’t want to be with someone we think is trying to change us. If he has a certain level of comfort around you, he’ll see you as someone he can be with forever.
You make him laugh.
Guys put a lot of effort into trying to put a smile on your face, but we also absolutely love to be with someone who makes us laugh. In fact, we love it so much that it makes us think you could be “The One.” If you notice that he’s always laughing with you, it’s a safe bet he’s looking at you as potential wife material.
He’s taking things slowly.
To be fair, there are a lot of reasons why a guy might take things slowly, but one possible reason is he thinks you two have a long-term future. If it’s a short-term fling, there’s no sense in waiting. However, we all know that marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. If he isn’t in a rush, he might think there’s a chance you could be his wife one day (even if not anytime soon).
He loves your cooking.
You know the old cliche about the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach? Well, it’s true. Honestly, there are probably marriages out there based primarily around a wife’s ability to cook. I realize that’s a little archaic, but it’s probably true. Obviously, no guy is going to say that he hates your cooking, but if he tells you that loves what you do in the kitchen, you’ve taken a big step toward being his wife. I mean, if that’s what you want.
He’s trying to better himself.
When you see a guy making strides to be his best self, it usually means you’ve had a positive influence on him. Guys secretly love when a woman pushes and inspires us. If we find someone like that, we’ll absolutely consider marrying them.
He notices your maternal instincts.
It’s safe to say that most guys associate marriage with kids. For what it’s worth, not all of us want kids, but most of us do eventually see a family in our future. With that in mind, if he doesn’t see you as a potential mother, he probably doesn’t see you as a potential wife either. On the contrary, if he’s noticed that you have a caring and nurturing side, it’ll be easier for him to envision the long-term with you by his side.
His parents love you.
This may not be a prerequisite for marrying someone, but it’s nice to have. If you have a good relationship with his parents, it can be easier to see you becoming his wife one day. That way, he won’t have to worry about his family thinking that marrying you would be a mistake. Their stamp of approval is pretty important.
He sticks out the hard times.
Honestly, if he doesn’t stick it out during the rocky parts of a relationship, the marriage isn’t going to work anyway. If he doesn’t run away and hide when you two are fighting or not getting along, he must view you as wife material. No guy would put himself through that if he didn’t think the relationship had a future.
He’s affectionate with you.
Any guy that doesn’t have a problem being affectionate with you in public or private will have no problem looking at you as a potential wife. Of course, all guys have different views when it comes to affection. But you typically don’t shower someone with affection if you don’t see them as a long-term option. Granted, this isn’t a guarantee that a guy thinks you’re wife material.