10 Signs He Likes You For More Than Your Body

Sex with him is great and all, but you can’t deny you’re hoping he’s into you for more than just your moves in the bedroom. Does it go deeper than that? Possibly. If he does these 10 things, you can be sure he’s into having a relationship with you, not just a good time.

  1. He spends time with you afterward. He doesn’t just come over to your place to have sex and then rush off to some other important thing he’s got to do as soon as it’s done. He actually spends time with you, whether talking or cuddling, which shows that he’s interested in more than the sexual act.
  2. He calls you just to chat. When he calls you, he doesn’t only make flirtatious or sexual comments. He’s keen to chat about your day, serious topics, or have a laugh. He might even tell you that he called just to hear your voice. Awww.
  3. He keeps you satisfied. When it comes to sex, the guy’s all about making sure you get lots of pleasure. He’s not selfish in the bedroom, which is a good sign that he cares about making you feel satisfied and happy.
  4. He takes you out on real dates. Time spent with him isn’t just about having sex or “hanging out” at his place playing video games. He makes an effort to take you on real dates, whether that involves dinner at your favorite restaurant or skiing in the park during the winter. He basically takes an interest in who you are and what you like doing so that your dates can be meaningful.
  5. He gives you affection that doesn’t lead to sex. When a guy’s only keen on having sex with you, he might not hold your hand, kiss you, hug you, or cuddle you on the couch unless that involves pre-sex activity. So, if he can be affectionate and connect with you physically without it always ending up in the bedroom, that’s a really good sign.
  6. He gives you meaningful compliments. While he might tell you how gorgeous you look every now and then and it feels good to hear him say it, he also gives you compliments that have nothing to do with your physical appearance. So, he might say that you’re smart or compliment how you karate-kick stressful situations. This shows that he’s looking at you, and liking you, on a deeper level.
  7. He’s all about making love. When you have sex with him, it feels like you’re connecting, both physically and emotionally. It’s really that you’re making love because you feel that connection on various levels. For example, he might look deeply into your eyes during sex, which helps you to bond.
  8. He can sleep with you. We’re talking about actual sleeping here! If a guy’s really into you and wants to be with you for more than sex, he’s going to be able to sleep with you in a bed instead of associating lying down with having sex every single time. Sleeping together also forms part of building a bond with each other and connecting on levels other than the physical.
  9. He loves daytime texts. You know what they say: if a guy’s only texting you in the early hours of the morning, he’s probably just horny and wants to have sex. But, if your guy can phone or text at any time of the day to chat, that’s a good sign that he’s not just looking for a booty call. Extra points for guys who are keen on brunch dates!
  10. He’s available at different times. A guy who’s reserving time with you for sex and nothing else might only be available at certain times of the night or on weekends, but then he’ll annoyingly go AWOL during the day when you’d like to meet up for a daytime date. What the heck? By comparison, a guy who wants you for more than your body will be able to meet you during the day sometimes so you don’t feel like he’s always hoping you’ll meet him for a late-night hookup. He’s basically available at different times and on different days because he’s letting you into his life, not just his bed.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.