11 Signs He Sees You As A Platonic Friend, Not A Potential Girlfriend

Have you started to get the feeling that the guy you like has put you in the friend zone? You’re probably right. I know that’s not what you want to hear, but unfortunately, it happens. Don’t play yourself out and ruin your self-esteem by thinking someone likes you when they really don’t. Be on the lookout for these 11 signs and if you notice them, move on.

  1. He’s A Random Communicator. His communication is all over the place. Some days, you talk from morning to night, but then there are weeks of zero communication. You never know when exactly you’ll hear from him because he only reaches out when he’s in the mood. That doesn’t make him a bad person, it just means he only sees you as a friend and doesn’t think it’s a big deal if you don’t talk that often.
  2. He Doesn’t Seem Interested. Don’t lie, you’ve made a few moves — he’s just never reciprocated any of them. You might have thought he didn’t realize your arm was rested on his leg during the movie, but in reality, he did notice but kept quiet so he wouldn’t hurt your feelings. He’s a good guy which means he won’t lead you on, but he also won’t tell you to stop flirting.
  3. He Treats You Like he treats His Friends. He doesn’t always respond to your texts or make plans to hang out. He calls you “dude” and “homie.” He even burps in front of you without hesitation. I say all this to make it clear that he sees you as just a friend. If he saw you in a romantic light, he’d censor himself a little more in your presence.
  4. He’s Never Made A Move. You’ve spent a considerable amount of time together and yet, he’s never made a move. He hasn’t kissed you or held your hand. Even when he’s drunk, he’s always aware of his actions and never accidentally crosses a line. I’m sorry to have to tell you this, but he doesn’t like you in a romantic way, not even when he’s a few beers in.
  5. He Doesn’t Return Compliments. You’re pretty much his personal cheerleader. You compliment him all the time but he never compliments you back. Instead, he thanks you for your kind words and quickly changes the subject. That seems like a pretty clear sign he’s trying to keep you in the friend zone.
  6. He’s Tried To Set You Up. If he’s tried to hook you up with at least one of his buddies, he considers you a friend. He wouldn’t want anyone else dating you if he was really interested. Think about it: Would you set your crush up with one of your friends, even as a joke? Hell no.
  7. He’s Very Comfortable Around You. How do you act when you like someone? Do you repeatedly touch them and stare into their eyes? No! You avoid looking at them too much and keep a comfortable distance. If he saw you as more than a friend, he’d be a little more anxious around you. Instead, he’s relaxed and comfortable. It’s as if he’s hanging out with one of the guys.
  8. He Talks About Other Girls. It’s one thing if he casually brings up an ex-girlfriend; it’s another if he talks to you about his dating life (in detail). You might think he’s trying to make you jealous, but honestly, people don’t usually brag about love interests while with a love interest. If he liked you, he wouldn’t discuss other women. Period.
  9. He Splits The Bill. He goes 50/50 on everything, even something as inexpensive as a cup of coffee. He’s trying to send a very clear message, which is that he only sees you as a friend. He has the money to pay for your latte, but he chooses not to because he doesn’t want to give you the wrong idea.
  10. He Doesn’t Get Dress Up To See You. When guys like you, they impress by dressing up. It’s as simple as that. I’m not saying he should wear a suit every time you hang out, but if he was into you, he’d put a nice outfit together. Instead, he rolls up in sweats, with matted hair, and doesn’t think twice about it. Why? Because he’s not trying to impress you.
  11. He’s Honest About His Feelings. He’s been clear with you since the beginning. He straight up said he only sees you as a friend, so why are you expecting more from him? That’s the real question. You can’t make someone love you, no matter how much you might wish you could.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.