Signs He’s Not “Just A Friend” Even Though He Claims Differently

When it comes to deciphering a person’s true feelings, actions speak louder than words. Just because they say that they only like you as a friend doesn’t mean that it’s true. While you can never really know what’s going on in someone’s head, there are a few clues that people give off that show they like you as more than a friend, no matter what they say. Alone, these signs might not mean much. But if a guy is showing all the signs, it’s likely that he doesn’t see you as just a friend.

  1. He gets jealous of the people you date. Generally speaking, friends don’t get jealous of each other’s dates. They might envy one another if one of them has an amazing dating life and the other one doesn’t. But they don’t feel jealous, like they’re missing out if you date someone else. So if a guy shows signs of jealousy any time you get involved with anyone else, it could be that he wants to be the one dating you.
  2. He gets nervous around you. Friendship should be a safe and comfortable space. Although all friends go through ups and downs with each other, the overall vibe of the friendship should not be anxious. If your guy friend always acts nervous around you, fidgeting, stuttering, and turning red, it may be because he secretly likes you as more than a friend.
  3. He flirts with you. This is pretty much a dead giveaway that he doesn’t see you as just a friend. How many friends do you know that flirt with each other? The exception would be if he’s a naturally flirty person and hits on just about everyone. Kind of like how Joey Tribbiani flirts with Rachel, Phoebe, and Monica even though he’s not serious about any of them. But if you know that he’s not a generally flirty person, then his flirting with you is probably a sign that he likes you.
  4. He wants you all to himself. When a guy sees you as more than a friend, he’s likely to want to spend alone time with you. That is, he won’t be content to just see you in a group setting. If you’re the only friend whom he wants to see alone, it could be that you’re not really just his friend after all.
  5. He finds excuses to touch you. To be clear, it’s never okay for anyone to touch you in a way that makes you uncomfortable. When your guy friend secretly sees you in a romantic way, he’ll probably find excuses to touch you harmlessly. Think brushing against your hand or dusting off your shoulders.
  6. He prioritizes you. It’s natural to prioritize the people that we like romantically. So if a guy sees you as girlfriend material, he’ll probably prioritize you above his other friends. He’ll go out of his way to see you, even when it’s not convenient.
  7. He looks at you when he thinks you’re not looking. Eye contact is a common sign of a romantic interest. An even stronger sign is staring. If you notice that your “friend” is always looking at you, especially when he thinks you don’t notice, it’s an indication that you’re on his mind in a non-platonic way.
  8. He tries to impress you. Trying to impress the people we like is another action that comes naturally. While it’s also common to try and impress your friends, generally we care about how the people we romantically like perceive us more. Does he care about your opinion more than anyone else’s? Is he always fishing for compliments around you, or telling you things to make himself sound better? It could be because he wants you to view him as more than a friend.
  9. He notices things about you that no one else notices. When you like someone, you’re more likely to pay close attention to them. You’ll listen to them when they talk. You’ll notice when they change their hair or get a new pair of glasses. So when a guy picks up on things about you that no one else does, it’s because he’s paying attention. And in most cases, paying attention like that shows that he likes you as more than a friend.
  10. He doesn’t want to talk about his dating life with you. If a guy avoids talking about his dating life with you, it could be because he secretly has feelings for you. He might not want you to think that he’s taken. Or that he’s a player. Or that he’s interested in someone else. While he could also just be a quiet type of person, this can mean that he feels awkward bringing it up around you because he likes you.
Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.