13 Signs You Need To Let Go Of Your Relationship To Rediscover Your Happiness

If you had to choose between having a mediocre relationship or genuine self-happiness, which would you choose? Feeling happy within yourself, of course! Here are 13 signs that you’ve got to let your relationship go in order to be truly content with your life. After all, it’s not going to come around with you-know-who around.

  1. You know you’re settling. Deep down you know that you could do better than your relationship, so why stay? It’s not going to make you happy. As time goes by, you’ll just become filled with cynicism and resentment.
  2. You’re living for your relationship. If your relationship takes up all the space in your relationship or you’re depending on it to be happy, that’s a sign it’s unhealthy for you. If you can’t find better balance with it in your life, then it’s not right for you. Make it fit your life instead of trying to fit yourself around it!
  3. You’re stuck in the past. Maybe you’re always thinking about how great things used to be with your partner and you’re hoping that you’ll reclaim that happiness. But for that to happen, he or she would have to change (unlikely to happen) or you’d have to go back in time (ditto).
  4. You’re feeling the pressure to change. If your partner is pressuring you to change, whether that includes making changes to your appearance or life choices, it’s clear you’re with the wrong person and they’re only going to make you unhappy in the future.
  5. You feel lonely even when you’re with them. It’s great to be alone sometimes, whether you’re in a relationship or single, but it’s a totally different situation to feel lonely. If you’re feeling that even though your partner’s sitting right next to you, you’re wasting your time and opportunities to feel happy with the right person at your side.
  6. You’ve lost your spark. Everyone always talks about the spark you might lose in your romantic relationship and how to get it back, but what about your personal spark? If you’re in an unhappy relationship you might’ve lost it because you’ve pushed your passions and life aside.
  7. You’re exhausted daily. If you feel tired all the time in your relationship, perhaps because you’re a doormat to your partner, you’re basically dating an energy vampire who’s bad for your overall health and happiness. Give them away so you can get what you need and want instead of feeling drained every day of your life.
  8. You don’t love yourself. If you’re showing signs of not loving yourself because your partner is your number one priority even though they’re not showing you the love you need or they’re breaking you down, then you’ve got to cut ties with them and move on so that you can start practicing self-love.
  9. Your relationship is a waste of time. If you feel bored most of the time in your relationship, that’s a sign it’s singing its swan song. It’s time to move on to something that will satisfy you and challenge your mind a lot more. It’s time to do something for yourself.
  10.  You feel guilty for thinking about your needs. If this is happening in your relationship, it’s a huge sign that you need to focus more on your needs! You’ve been neglecting them in your relationship, and you need to stop doing that so that you can live the life you want. No apologies. No excuses. You have to come first.
  11. You’re unhappy most of the time. No relationship is going to be smooth sailing all the time, but if you feel down, irritated, angry, or anxious regularly, and nothing else in your life is to blame for it, then that’s a clear sign your relationship isn’t right for you anymore and you should look elsewhere for your happiness.
  12. You know you’ll be better off single. If your partner isn’t bringing value to your life, then why are you still with them? Thinking about being alone and the opportunities you could take in your life should make you feel excited to explore them instead of holding yourself back by staying in a dead-end relationship.
  13. You’re over-compromising. While compromise is important in relationships, if you’re doing it too much and not getting anything in return for it, then you’re basically a love doormat who’s pushed away her priorities and needs. Ugh. That’s such a toxic relationship you’re in and the only way to rediscover your happiness is to run – not walk – away from it.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.