10 Signs You’re Not A Relationship Girl (And Why That’s Okay)

Relationships aren’t for everyone, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean you’re emotionally closed off or scared of commitment, you just enjoy your freedom and you’re comfortable in your own skin. Does this describe you? If you relate to these 10 signs, you’re probably not a relationship girl:

  1. You’d rather spend time on your own than with a romantic partner. You’d so much rather Netflix & Chill with yourself than with another person. Sitting alone on your couch wearing nothing but a robe while binge watching Gossip Girl for the 20th time while eating pizza sounds more than satisfying. Why would you need a guy next to you when Chuck Bass is a mere five feet away on your TV screen?
  2. The dating scene has never interested you. Dating? No, thank you. The idea of going on dates low-key makes you want to throw up. It’s too much work. You have to flirt, ask about his life and tell him about yours — hard pass. Maybe if dating was easier and less dramatic, you’d give it a go. As it is, you’re cool on your own.
  3. You’re in the midst of doing some serious work on yourself. You know who you are, and who you are is a little selfish. There’s nothing wrong with admitting it. Right now, you’re putting yourself first, just as you should be. You don’t want the responsibility of having to worry about someone else’s life and feelings. You’re young and unwilling to compromise, which would inevitably happen if you were in a relationship.
  4. Casual sex is your jam. Yes, there are some women who actually enjoy no strings attached sex —  and right now, it’s your jam. You enjoy casual sex more than being in a committed relationship and that’s because you don’t have to deal with emotions. However, it also means you’re probably not a relationship type of girl. Whatever. You’re perfectly content with your current sexcapades.
  5. You’ve never really cared about having a boyfriend. You’ve been in relationships before and they were all awful. Yeah, the guys weren’t your soulmates, but they were all fine human beings — you just didn’t like being with them. The physical part was great but everything else was kind of a drag. Talking about emotions, sharing food (and your bed), hanging out all the time and not being able to sleep with other people — all things you hate doing.
  6. Marriage sounds awful. When you think about marriage, you cringe. Your friends, on the other hand, can’t wait to be married and pop out a few kids, and good for them. The thought of a family doesn’t interest you in the least. No worries — marriage isn’t for everyone. You might change your mind as time goes on, but maybe not. Having a family just might not be your thing, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
  7. Your friends seem miserable. Granted, you’ve never been an active dater, but it seems awful. Your friends seem miserable — constantly checking for texts and analyzing what “let’s hang out later” means. What kind of life is that? Having to play games and constantly overthink everything sounds more than a little exhausting. You have enough anxiety as is — dating would probably destroy you.
  8. You want to stay focused. You’ve got a lot on your plate right now. You wouldn’t be able to focus on a relationship even if you wanted to. A relationship only works when two people are fully committed to making it work and right now, you’re not. You’re too focused on getting your crap together to worry about finding a man. And let’s be honest, getting your crap together really needs your full attention.
  9. You don’t want to commit. You’re not scared of commitment — you just don’t want to do it. You’ve currently got your eye on a number of guys and you’re not interested in just dating one. Being monogamous has never been your strong suit. Sure, maybe you’ll eventually find someone who stops your wandering eye, but you’re not holding your breath.
  10. You prefer the friend zone. The friend zone is your favorite zone. You can hang out with guys as friends AND you can sleep with them. Hannah Montana said it best: “You get the best of both worlds.” There’s no drama, breaking up, drunk calls at 4 am — none of that BS! You’re the kind of girl who prefers living life unattached. Relationships aren’t for you, but you’re more than fine with casual sexships.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.