Signs Of A Disrespectful Man You Should Never Tolerate

The signs that you’re dating a disrespectful man aren’t always easy to spot. Often, guys like this do a great job at disguising themselves. They’re charismatic, funny, smart, and maybe even romantic. But newsflash: you can have all those characteristics and still be rude as hell. That’s why it’s important to make sure you know the red flags to look out for. Don’t be taken advantage of by a disrespectful partner. If you notice any of these behaviors, it’s time to walk away.

  1. He Doesn’t Build You Up. Instead of praising your accomplishments, he ignores them. Instead of believing in your potential, he openly doubts you. A significant other should make you feel confident, but he doesn’t. He makes you doubt whether you’re good enough for anything. He questions your career choices, your future goals, and how you communicate with your friends and family. This is one of the biggest signs of a disrespectful man there is.
  2. He Constantly Disappoints You. A disrespectful man won’t put much into the relationship, especially compared to how much you put in. When you two are together, he has your undivided attention. But when you’re talking, he barely looks at you. He’s either texting, scrolling through Instagram, or just zoned out. Due to his lack of attention, he doesn’t remember anything you say. And even on the off chance he does pay attention, he rarely shows interest in what you’re saying. Unless, of course, you’re talking about him.
  3. He Speaks Over You. Does he listen when you talk? Nope. In fact, just the opposite — he talks over you as if what you’re saying doesn’t matter. Cutting someone off when they’re speaking can sometimes be an accident, but he’s doing it 100% on purpose. That’s a huge sign he’s a disrespectful man. By interrupting you, he’s making it clear he doesn’t respect what you’re saying. It’s also a sign he thinks he’s superior over you.
  4. He Makes Decisions Without You. A good relationship should be balanced. You should both have an equal amount of say in what happens during your relationship. If your partner makes decisions without asking you, that’s a clear sign of disrespect. It means he doesn’t care what you think, and that’s not a partner you want or deserve.
  5. You’ve Become A Different Person. A disrespectful man will make you change who you are. They might not blatantly tell you to change, but they’ll imply it. For instance, he might suggest you spend time with him instead of going out with friends. He might also suggest you abandon certain hobbies to be with him or even make you adopt his hobbies completely. If your relationship has turned you into someone you don’t recognize, you’re not dating the right person.
  6. He Doesn’t Keep His Promises. He promised to call you after he got home from the gym. He didn’t. He promised to take you out for dinner on Friday night. He bailed. He promised he’d be home by 9 p.m. He didn’t get home until hours later. Not only does he not keep his promises, but he doesn’t even try. In fact, he’s disappointed you so many times you’ve stopped believing a word he says.
  7. He Puts Himself First. It’s important to note that everyone can be selfish at times, but this guy takes it to a whole other level. It’s either his way or the highway. Meaning, you rarely get a say in what you both do. Sure, he might let you pick the restaurant, but he gives you two of his favorite places to choose from — even if you hate both choices.
  8. He Doesn’t Say Sorry. No one is perfect. There’s going to come a time in every relationship when you inadvertently hurt your partner’s feelings. When that happens, it’s important you’re both able to apologize. Unfortunately, a disrespectful man won’t apologize. That’s because he always thinks he’s right. Even when he makes a mistake, he blames that mistake on you somehow. “It’s not my fault you’re so sensitive,” he says. Or worse, he’ll somehow find a reason to be mad at you, so you end up apologizing.
  9. He Uses Your Insecurities Against You. The closer you get to someone the more you open up. Chances are, you’ve shared secrets with your partner. For example, maybe he knows your ex cheated on you a few years ago, or that you’re insecure about your body. A good boyfriend will keep these secrets and help you overcome them. But this guy constantly brings them up and even uses them against you. He says things like, “No wonder your ex cheated,” and takes little digs at your body. That’s disrespect.
  10. He Disregards Your Needs. Not only is he selfish in day-to-day life, but he’s also selfish in the bedroom. He couldn’t care less about your want. As long as his needs are being met, he’s happy. Have you ever heard of anything more selfish?! We’re not saying your boyfriend should cry if you don’t walk away satisfied, but he should care. And he definitely shouldn’t make you feel bad when you’d rather sleep than have sex. But he does, and that’s because he’s selfish and disrespectful.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.