10 Signs You’re With A Guy Who Really Doesn’t Deserve You

Life is way too short to waste time on some guy who doesn’t deserve you. It doesn’t matter how cute or smart he is. If he’s not worthy of you, you have to move on. Keep an eye out for these signs that it’s time to get out ASAP.

  1. He doesn’t make you a priority in his life. If somebody cares about you, they’ll always make time for you. Period. There are no exceptions to that rule. If he’s constantly bailing on plans with you, not picking up the phone when you call, or constantly leaving you on read, he isn’t prioritizing you in his life and that’s just not okay.
  2. He doesn’t bother to learn your love language. Some people don’t put a lot of importance on love languages, but whether you do or not, everyone gives and receives love differently and the right guy will take the time to learn about what you like and what makes you happy. Without this, how can he give you what you need?
  3. He doesn’t value what you bring to the table. Your personality quirks, the things you love and place value on in your life, and the finite qualities that essentially make you the woman you are should be of the utmost importance to him. If it’s not, he’s clearly not on your level.
  4. He doesn’t continue to date you once he has you. Often when couples have been together for a while, things can get a bit too comfortable and they can get bored or complacent. A guy might think that because you’re “his” and the two of you are in an exclusive relationship that he doesn’t have to woo you or romance you anymore. That’s not the one. He needs to keep showing you he wants you rather than assuming you’ll just know.
  5. He isn’t proud to show you off.  You’re an amazing woman and he should feel like the luckiest man on earth to have you in his life. If he doesn’t reflect that in the way he treats you but also in the way he introduces you to people and acts about you around his friends and family, he absolutely doesn’t deserve you.
  6. He doesn’t listen to what you want. Whether it’s something small like where you want to go for dinner, what you want to do for Christmas, or something big like what you want for your future, he needs to listen to what you want. If he refuses to listen or just flat out refuses to acknowledge your desires, that’s an indication that he doesn’t care about what you want.
  7. He’s dishonest with you (even about small things). The guy that deserves you will always be honest with you. He’ll never give you a reason not to trust him. Dishonesty is such a huge red flag in relationships even if the lie is over something insignificant. Even if he lies about little things that don’t make a difference, it means that he’s okay with lying to you so there’s nothing stopping him from lying about the big stuff.
  8. He’s not affectionate with you. Whether you’re a super lovey-dovey girl who loves to snuggle and constantly be touched or not, physical affection is important in every relationship. If your guy doesn’t want to hold your hand, kiss you, or just put his arms around you on a regular basis to let you know that he loves you, then maybe he doesn’t even deserve your affection.
  9. He doesn’t hurt when you hurt. When you really care for someone, their moods and feelings affect you. If there’s something going on in your life that is causing you pain and stress, it’s important to have the support of your partner. Everyone shows emotion in different ways but it’s pretty obvious when someone doesn’t seem to care that you’re hurting for going through some kind of hardship.
  10. He makes you feel like you don’t deserve him. This is such a big one. If the guy you’re with makes you feel like you’re the one who doesn’t deserve him, he absolutely does not deserve you and you need to remove yourself from that relationship right then and there. If your partner thinks that they’re out of your league or tries to make you feel like you’re lucky that they are with you, drop them ASAP. You deserve to be with someone who looks at you like you’re the greatest woman they’ve ever met.
Shelby is a journalist and fiction writer raised in the South but built for the big city. She's a book nerd (well, an overall nerd, honestly) and coffee addict and obsessed with all things leather and lacy.

She has a bachelor’s degree in Mass Communication and Media Studies from Sam Houston State University and worked for her university newspaper, The Houstonian, as well as serving as a producer and part-time entertainment anchor for Cable 7 Huntsville. You can follow her on Twitter @shelby777.