Signs You Were Meant To Be On Your Own & Should Stop Dating

Being single can be a blast, but when you find the right guy, it’s finally time to settle down and commit… or is it? You don’t want to end up alone, but you don’t want to give up your freedom, and it can be hard to find a happy balance. Maybe you’re just not ready to give up the single life.

  1. You refuse to compromise. You have to give a little to get a little so both parties can be happy. Isn’t that what you want? Sure, your own happiness is important, too, but if you’re not willing to compromise out of love for your partner, then you’re just being selfish.
  2. The only opinion that matters in the end is your own. When it comes to love, there’s no room for a ‘my way or the highway’ attitude. Your decisions are no longer just about you. When you’re single, you’re the head of your household and every choice is your own. When you commit to a relationship, though, his opinion is just as valuable as your own, because from here on out, it affects his life, too.
  3. You’re opposed to sleepovers. You can weigh the pros and cons as long as you’d like, but in the end, if you really want a relationship, you have to share your heart and your bed. Sprawling in spread eagle might be your norm, but it doesn’t beat the comfort of your partner lying next to you.
  4. You don’t know how to share. Not only is your bed all yours, but so is the TV and all the contents of your refrigerator. When it comes to relationships, sharing is caring, but in your opinion, that’s overrated. In your life, anything and everything is yours and yours alone, and you wouldn’t want it any other way.
  5. You’re still addicted to drama. For some people, the stress of drama can be an adrenaline rush. If there are no complications, then life isn’t easy, it’s boring AF. Settling down sounds like losing the magic, and you’d never give up your dramatic lifestyle for marital bliss.
  6. You can’t give up the dating games. You love the bar, first dates, flirts, and even hookups. So how could you possibly say goodbye to all those good times? You couldn’t spend every night with the same person, because you love the excitement of someone new. In your life, it’s goodbye to yesterday’s fella and hello to tomorrow’s man.
  7. You still prefer to be alone. Maybe you’re not the girl who likes to go out every night. Maybe you’re perfectly happy spending every night on the couch binge watching the newest Netflix original series. Relationships mean giving up that time alone and trading it in for life with an ever-present partner. You might want a boyfriend, but you don’t want a roommate, and if things went well, that’s exactly what you’d get.
  8. You don’t have the time or energy to put in the effort. Relationships take work, and you’re just too lazy for that stuff. You already have your priorities set straight and you’re just not willing to add another to the list. You don’t want any more responsibilities on your plate — you’ve got enough to handle as it is, and if that means you stay single, then so be it.
  9. You expect him to change to fit your needs. In any relationship, there’s an adjustment period to changing your regular routine. If you’re being realistic, you know that both of you need to make changes and grow as human beings. Are you unwilling to change? Because if you’re ready to give up the single life, some minor changes are necessary.
  10. You can’t admit you’re wrong. You love to be right, and not to brag, but you’re good at it. That being said, you’re still human and every once in a great while you might just be wrong, but would you ever admit to that? No way Jose. In your mind, there are no apologies needed. You’re single and in charge, and any wrongdoing on your part needn’t be acknowledged.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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