A Guy Reveals The 10 Signs You’re More on His Mind Than He Admits

Admittedly, most guys tend to play things close to the vest when it comes to their feelings. For instance, the guy you’re seeing probably isn’t going to let you know that he’s thinking about you all the time and starting to develop serious feelings for you, at least not right away. Luckily, actions always speak louder than words. Even if he doesn’t tell you that you’ve been on his mind a lot, here are some giveaways that you’re on his mind.

  1. His family and friends know about you. Meeting the people closest to him is always a good sign, but it’s even better when they’ve heard about you and know a few things about you already. It usually means that he’s been talking about you. That doesn’t happen if you haven’t been on his mind frequently when you’re not around.
  2. He remembers random things about you. Of course, he should remember the most important stuff you share with him, but if he’s remembering weird anecdotes or specific details from seemingly unimportant conversations, it’s a good indication that he thinks about you a lot. On a side note, it means that the guy is actually listening when you speak, which is always a plus.
  3. You have inside jokes. Do you have inside jokes with your mail carrier or the clerk at the grocery store? Probably not because you only see them for a few seconds and then forget about them. If you have inside jokes, it’s probably because you’re on his mind. If you weren’t, he wouldn’t bother remembering private jokes that are only funny to the two of you. If he’s the one who brings up the inside joke whenever he sees you, it’s another good indication that he’s been thinking about you.
  4. He follows up on things. Did you mention an important meeting you have scheduled or an event you are planning to attend? If he texts to ask you about it or he brings it up the next time he sees you, it usually means you’re at the forefront of his thoughts. It’s easy for most people to forget about that kind of stuff. If he doesn’t care about you, he won’t bother asking a follow-up question about something you did.
  5. He smiles when he sees you. Okay, I’m not talking about a polite half-smile – I mean a big broad smile. This is because he feels equal parts excitement and relief when he sees you. He was obviously looking forward to it and you’ll be able to see the elation on his face. Trust me, a guy’s smile can tell you everything.
  6. He remembers relationship milestones. Any guy who seems like a relationship encyclopedia when it comes to your relationship is undoubtedly thinking about you a lot. You may have noticed that most guys aren’t great with remembering anniversaries and important dates. But if you’ve been on his mind a lot, it’ll be easier for him to recall the first time you went to a certain restaurant or the first movie you watched together.
  7. His gifts for you are perfect. Buying gifts for people isn’t particularly easy. Trust me, most guys aren’t that great at it because it requires thinking about the other person and racking your brain for everything you know about them. If he crushes it in the gift-giving department, it’s no accident. Also, he’s probably a keeper just based on his gift-giving acumen.
  8. He asks for your opinion. Most guys won’t go out of their way to ask for anybody’s opinion. If he wants to know your thoughts and feelings on something important in his life, it means he values your opinion and that he’s been thinking about what you might be thinking about what he’s doing.
  9. He opens up to you. Surely, you ladies are aware that most guys don’t open up to just anybody. It sort of a big deal when we do, and so it only happens when we feel super-comfortable with a person. One way we become comfortable with another person is by thinking about them a lot. If you’re suddenly broken through the wall he had up and he’s opening up to you, either he’s had too much to drink or you’ve been on his mind a lot recently.
  10. He asks personal questions. On the other side of the conversation, a guy who’s been thinking about you is more likely to ask you personal questions. This is because he’s been thinking about all of the things he wants to know about you and he’s eager to move past the superficial stuff and really get to know you better. Believe me when I say most guys don’t care about that stuff unless they think about you when you’re not around.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.