13 Signs You’re With The Right Person

You might be keeping an eye out for signs you’re dating someone who’s not worth your time, but sometimes only good signs are on display. If you’re experiencing any of these 13 things, you’ve found the person you should be with.

  1. You can be yourself. You don’t have to put on a front when you’re with this person. You don’t have to dress a certain way or censor your thoughts. You know that they love you for who you are. Isn’t it refreshing?
  2. You don’t freak about fighting. When it comes to relationships, fighting can be healthy if you do it right. When you and your person do get into it, you don’t worry that it’ll be the end of your relationship. You’re strong enough to weather those mini-storms.
  3. You feel heard. Few things are worse than being with someone who just doesn’t get you or even try to understand what you’re feeling and thinking. When you’re with the right person, you feel acknowledged and truly listened to. This has the cool side effect of making you feel that you don’t have to censor yourself because you won’t be written off as “crazy” for your thoughts and feelings.
  4. Your happiness is a priority. Maybe your partner really doesn’t feel like antique-store trawling on a Saturday morning but he agrees to go because he knows it makes you happy. While both partners should feel that their needs are met in a relationship, both should also feel that their partner cares about their happiness and wants to see a smile on their face.
  5. You’re both independent. You know what they say: if you can be complete and independent, when you join forces with your partner (who’s also those things), you’re so much stronger. Instead of trying to complete each other, you’re two complete beings becoming a team. It’s a game-changer!
  6. You can talk for hours. It’s normal to have a bit of quiet time with your partner from time to time, but as long as it feels comfortable, it’s all good. Generally, if you and your partner don’t get tired of having conversations then you’re definitely onto a good thing. ¬†Hey, if you can’t talk, then what do you have?
  7. You turn to him on your worst day. When drama strikes your life, do you phone your partner first or do you hesitate? If you do the latter, you have to dig deeper for the reason why. It might be because you feel your partner just won’t understand or answer his phone or he’ll tell you you’re being dramatic. It’s not a good feeling, nor does it bode well for your relationship, if you don’t feel you can depend on your partner.
  8. You pass the “bar test.” The bar test is basically this: when you’re out at a bar or some other public place, do you find yourself checking out other people or making sure you don’t run into anyone you know who would see you and your partner together? If you feel confident to be with your partner and you don’t actively seek out other people you could imagine yourself with, then you’re with the right person.
  9. You’re still interested in them. Not just physically but mentally too. You still want to know so much about your partner because he fascinates you. You want to know about his childhood and upbringing, what his parents were like, what his school friends were like, and more. That’s a really good sign because your interest shouldn’t wane just because you’re in a long-term relationship. And of course, you should feel that they’re interested in learning as much as possible about you. It’s about growing together.
  10. You give others the feels. After you and your partner spend time with your friends and family members, what’s their reaction? Do they say that you guys work so well together or that you give off good energy? This is important because when none of your loved ones like your partner, you have to wonder what it is they’re seeing from outside of the relationship.
  11. He’s always lifting you up. You want to be with someone who knows your flaws but knows that they don’t define you. He should be eager to praise you and make you remember why you’re so amazing (because you are). But, what’s also important is that your partner always has your back. He’s the first to support you even if you’re wrong and the first to tell others how amazing you are. He’s competing with your mom for the position of your biggest supporter!
  12. You see beyond the wedding. Sure, it’s awesome to have a memorable and special wedding with your forever person, but when thinking about the future with your partner you actually feel more excited about your marriage. That’s a really good relationship green flag.
  13. You don’t really have drama. While you can’t guarantee that you and your partner will never have drama in your relationship (hey, life’s full of curveballs), when your besties complain about their partners, you find yourself not really having much to contribute to the convo. Your relationship isn’t toxic or filled with drama and you feel incredibly lucky.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.