Simple Ways To Ensure He’s Satisfied In Your Relationship, According To A Guy

Deep down, most of us guys are simple creatures. You don’t always have to go above and beyond to keep us happy because we appreciate the simple things in life. If you care about the guy in your life being happy and satisfied in your relationship, here are some simple things you can do. (Note: he should be doing these things for you too.)

  1. Stay open-minded. Healthy relationships are a constant give and take. This usually requires an open mind that’s free of any judgment. Most guys don’t take it well when they feel like they’re being judged or criticized, especially by someone they care about. If you can stay receptive to some of the weird or wacky things a guy says and does, you’ll go a long way toward keeping him happy.
  2. Compliment him so others can hear. If there’s one thing guys need in a relationship, it’s knowing that they’re appreciated by their partner. If you can show your appreciation for a guy in front of other people, all the better. I’m not saying you have to pour it on thick, but any kind of compliment or a public declaration about what you like about a guy will help keep a guy happy. You don’t want to embarrass him in front of his friends and family, but it’s best to find ways to make him feel appreciated.
  3. Trust him. As is the case with many women, if guys don’t trust you or don’t think you trust them, they won’t have much faith in the relationship. This means your boyfriend won’t be happy and he won’t put any effort into making it work long-term. To keep a guy satisfied, you should always be looking for ways to build trust in the relationship.
  4. Encourage him. Most guys won’t admit this, but we like being challenged a little by our partners. A lot of us want to be in a relationship that forces us to be our best selves. Of course, this requires encouragement and motivation from you ladies that we should pursue our goals. Even if we don’t get there, if we feel encouraged, we’ll be pretty content.
  5. Keep things light and flirty. Plain and simple, guys love it when women flirt with them. We just crave the attention. It’s why we can’t always help ourselves when someone who’s not our girlfriend flirts with us. For that reason, it’s important to keep a relationship as light and flirty as possible. I’m not saying it’s always easy, but couples should always find time to remember the more carefree days. It’ll be great for both parties to help their sexual chemistry and keep the spark in the relationship.
  6. Stay young at heart. Guys love to hang onto their youth for as long as possible. More importantly, they want a relationship that makes them feel that way. Obviously, things won’t be like that all the time, but it’s important to find ways to take you back to the early days of the relationship and make both of you feel like you’re still young. Typically, if you can trick a guy into feeling like he’s still a kid, you can keep him happy.
  7. Provide him with good meals. It’s a cliche but it’s true that the best way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. If he’s well-fed, he’ll usually be satisfied in his relationship. Obviously, if you’re a good cook, you’re ahead of the game. If not, it’s not the end of the world. Just be sure to surprise a guy with takeout from his favorite restaurant or his favorite dessert every once in a while. I mean, who wouldn’t be happy with a partner who brings them their favorite foods?
  8. Show him some love. Words are great, but sometimes guys need actions to feel the love in a relationship. This doesn’t mean having sex with him non-stop, but other forms of physical affection like holding hands or letting him be the small spoon are important too. You can also send him texts, sexts, or even old-fashioned written notes. He’ll be able to read or look at these any time he wants. They will serve as reminders that you love him and go a long way toward keeping him happy with the relationship.
  9. Let him have some alone time. It sounds odd, but keeping a guy happy in your relationship sometimes means giving him time away from the relationship. No matter how much a guy likes you, he still needs alone time. More importantly, he needs to feel like you support his alone time. Don’t make him feel guilty for wanting to hang out with his friends or spend a little time apart. You can probably use some alone time too, right?
  10. Take charge in bed. Yes, sex is an important part of keeping a guy satisfied with your relationship. Being the one to initiate sex or take charge in bed is an important part of that. It’s not that guys don’t enjoy sex, but they can get bored with the same routine or always having to be the one to initiate. If you’re willing to make the first move or try new things in bed, a guy will never lose interest in your sex life.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.