I’m Single AF, But I Actually Love Seeing Happy Couples

Single and bitter are not the same thing. I may not have a man in my life right now, but that doesn’t mean I hate people who are in relationships! It’s quite the opposite — I think it’s wonderful to witness true love in action. Here’s why I’m totally supportive of the mushy romances of other people:

  1. They give me hope. Quite simply, it’s a good reminder that I might not end up living alone forever sipping tea on my couch while I knit afghans. Sometimes when I’m single a long time, it’s hard to remember that love is still a possibility for me. I find happy couples to be a boost to my own happiness because their joy spreads to everyone around them. It helps to know that I could have that someday too.
  2. I live vicariously through them. I’m not one of those girls who hates hearing about happy couples. I’m quite the opposite — I love grand romantic stories! What’s the point of hating on them? It doesn’t change anything; it would just make me feel negative and miserable. I like knowing that old-fashioned romance still exists in the world. It’s way better than listening to someone complain about their partner.
  3. They remind me that there are good relationships. My parents are divorced and I didn’t witness many healthy adult relationships growing up. For a long time, I didn’t really believe that people could be in a partnership long-term and remain happy. I had no reason to think it was possible. Then I started seeing happy marriages and relationships and realized that it is indeed feasible — even quite common! I love that.
  4. It provides me with good examples of what works. I’ve been in some failed relationships of my own and they’ve taught me what doesn’t work. When I want to see how a healthy partnership should be, I look to those couples in my life who are killing it at romance. I welcome their presence in my world because though I’m very single now, I’ll make better choices in the future with them as role models.
  5. They feed my inner romantic. I may be tough on the outside, but inside I still love romance just as much as the next girl. I’m a hopeless romantic who’s scared to open up and let myself be vulnerable because that’s when I get hurt. I can get my romance fix without danger by watching the super happy couples in my life and how they treat each other. It’s so much easier than actually dating.
  6. Their happiness has nothing to do with the fact that I’m single. It’s not like they got together and therefore kept me from being in a relationship. Why should I hate them? I choose whether I’m happy or not. It has nothing to do with them. I’m perfectly happy staying single until I meet the right guy and then I can be in a great relationship too.
  7. I’m not angry because I’m single. I don’t understand why people assume that I’m unhappy because I don’t have a partner in my life right now. I always try to appreciate the present because it could change at any moment. I love my single friends. I love my friends in relationships. Relationship status doesn’t say a damn thing about who a person is. Hating people who are happy in love is, quite frankly, stupid.
  8. I know my time will come eventually. I used to spend all my single time wishing I was dating, and then when I was in a relationship I regretted not enjoying my single life! It didn’t make any sense. I won’t be alone forever and even if I am, there’s no point in resenting people who have happy relationships. It’s not like they come about magically — love is hard work between two people who are dedicated to toughing it out no matter what.
  9. I don’t want any bad karma. Hate and jealousy just create the wrong kind of juju. I don’t need any of that in my life. I want only good things and positivity! I firmly believe that what goes around comes around and I don’t think that hating on someone else’s happiness is ever productive. I certainly won’t find love if I’m walking around all bitter and angry all the time.
  10. Love is a beautiful, wonderful thing to witness. I could never be mad at something so lovely. There’s something magical about getting a glimpse into the world of two people who truly and wholly adore each other no matter what. I have had that feeling at times and I hope to have it again with the right person. I don’t know when that will happen, but for now, I’m content to revel in the good fortunes of those who’ve found it.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.