“Single Girl” Things You Should Never Stop Doing, Especially When You’re In A Relationship

You’re in a relationship now, so some activities you used to enjoy are off limits, like flirting with other men. But that doesn’t mean that EVERYTHING you used to do as a single woman needs to be taken off the table. Make time for these things single women regularly do — they might actually even make you a better partner.

  1. Hang out with your best friends. Get dressed up and head to your favorite bar, no men allowed. You shouldn’t neglect your best friends when you find your dream man or think that your boyfriend has to be present at all your social outings. You need times when you can just be silly and have fun with the girls. They’ll always be by your side even when he’s not anymore, so be sure to celebrate and appreciate them.
  2. Travel on your own. Remember the excitement of jumping on a train or plane and heading to a place you’ve never been with only yourself to rely on? It was awesome. Just because you have a partner, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do this on your own. It’s a great way to maintain your independence and broaden your horizons. Sure, you should travel together, but there’s nothing wrong with a solo expedition to expand your worldview and rejuvenate your worldview.
  3. Spoil yourself with jewelry. Just because you have a boyfriend doesn’t mean you should expect him to buy you pretty gems and jewelry. Spoil yourself! You deserve it and work hard for these simple pleasures. Besides, no one knows what you like better than you do.
  4. Buy something impractical. Who cares what your boyfriend thinks about your flashy yellow stilettos or that hot pink kettle that makes you happy every morning. If it brings joy to your life, then go ahead and buy it as if you were single.
  5. Change your Facebook profile to a hot pic. No, not of you and your boyfriend, but just of YOU looking gorgeous AF. Too many couples create profiles on Facebook that look like mutual accounts, but what about having your own space to be you? Posting a gorgeous selfie now and then isn’t about attracting other men, it’s about celebrating yourself and facing the world as your best self, whether or not you have a man in your life.
  6. Spend time with your loved ones. It can be tempting to want to see your boyfriend all the time, but don’t forget about your loved ones, like your family members. They miss you and one day when they’re no longer around, you’ll miss the single woman days when you spent more time getting to know them and learning from them.
  7. Set goals and really go after them. It’s sad that sometimes your dreams and goals take a bit of a back seat in favor of your couple goals, but that’s BS. You still have your own personal dreams that are important to you, so make time regularly to reach them and think about your own future. The more personally fulfilled you are, the better person AND partner you’ll be.
  8. Make an effort to look good. Dress up, do your hair, look after your skin, wear sexy lingerie, hit the gym – do all of these things, but only for yourself! It’s about self-love and you need to do such things regularly to look after yourself and feel your best whether you’re single or taken.
  9. Have a “no compromise” list. Don’t forget about your high standards when you get into a relationship. Your needs and desires still matter just as much as when you were single. You need to do things that make you happy, and the right guy will help you remember to make your happiness a priority.
  10. Get better at self-pleasure. Just because you’re in a relationship and probably getting regular sex doesn’t mean that you should forget about pleasuring yourself. This can boost your sexual satisfaction while also increasing your sexual confidence. Plus, it’s fun. It’s really a myth to think that only women who aren’t satisfied in their relationships masturbate. Definitely not!
  11. Ask your best friends for advice. They know you the best, so don’t think that just because you’re in a relationship, you can’t turn to your best friends. They’re the strong women who inspire, love and accept you no matter what. They’re the friends you not only need during your darkest days but even when you’re happy AF in a relationship. They’ll aways encourage you to be your best self, which is important as sometimes relationships can cause you to put blinkers on.
  12. Check in with yourself regularly. Just because you’re taken doesn’t mean that you’re not growing and changing. Take a regular time out to spend quiet time with yourself and see where you’re at, both in your relationship and your life. This helps you stay on track to where you want to be and how you want to live your life.
  13. Do things on your own that scare you. Whether it’s legit scary, like going to the doctor to have a weird mole checked out, or a little intimidating, like going to a party when your boyfriend’s out of town, being on your own makes you feel confident. It also reminds you that you have the strongest person to depend on in life who will never let you down — you.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.