I’m Single And Love My Life, But I Also Don’t Want To End Up Alone

I’m single and I’m happy this way. I’m making the most of the single life while it lasts, but I do want it to end someday. After all, just because I’m cool with rolling solo now doesn’t mean I want to be alone forever.

  1. I don’t need a man to make me happy. I know that happiness comes from within. I’m in control of my own happiness and I don’t need to be in a relationship to feel good about my life. My single life is amazing, but I do think that having someone I truly love and who truly loves me could make my life even better. I’m not asking a man to make me happy, but I do hope to have one who brings even more joy into my life someday.
  2. I’m a relationship girl. I might be single but in reality, I’ve always been a relationship girl. I don’t do hookups, I don’t like to keep things casual, and I don’t like meaningless sex. I want love and I want a real relationship because that’s just the type of girl I am. At my core, I’m just a serious one-man at a time kind of girl.
  3. I don’t want to grow old alone. When I see my future, I don’t see myself as an eternal bachelorette. I want someone to actually be by my side as my youth fades and I age. Someday I’ll look back on my single years fondly, but I’ll also be so happy to have a true partner by my side. I want a man I can spend forever with, growing old together and loving each other more and more with every passing year.
  4. I’m ready for the next chapter in my life. It’s not like I became single last week. I’ve been single for ages. I’ve lived my solo life to the fullest, but now I’m ready for the next chapter — a real relationship. I want to keep my life moving forward; I don’t want to stay stuck in a rut. Singlehood has been an amazing experience, but I’m more than ready for my next adventure.
  5. I want to have a family someday. I want a lot out of life, and that includes someday becoming a mother. Some women would be perfectly happy with never having children, but I’m not one of those women. I also don’t want to raise children on my own. I grew up with siblings and my parents are still together, and that’s the life I want.
  6. I want more in my life than my career, friends, and hobbies. That stuff’s all good for right now, but not for forever. I want to have it all — and that includes love. I should be able to be a strong woman with a kickass career, have amazing friends, time for my hobbies, and time for a man I’m head over heels for. I know there are only 24 hours in a day, but I’m confident I can make time for the right guy.
  7. I’m strong enough to admit I want a guy even if I don’t need him. I’m a strong, independent woman and I don’t need a guy, but it’s perfectly acceptable to want one. Admitting I’d like to have love in my life doesn’t make me weak — it makes me honest. I’m building a life I’m proud of on my own but I want someone to share the highs and lows with. Isn’t that what life’s all about?
  8. I know what it feels like to be in love. I can’t help but admit that I miss that sacred feeling. I loved being in love, even though it didn’t last. I can’t help but think though if love was that amazing with the wrong guy, it must be truly incredible with the right guy. In other words, I’m aware of what I might be missing out on if I never found love and I don’t want to look back with regret.
  9. Eventually, all my girlfriends will get married. They’ll become busy with their husbands, kids, and have a new life where they can’t constantly go out like we do now. I have to be honest with myself and admit that I don’t think the single life would be so great if I didn’t have my girls to share it with, and I don’t want to be the one girl left behind.
  10. I like going out, but I like staying in better. The truth is that I’m a homebody and that’s not exactly ideal for a single lady. Going out on the town can be fun, but I’d way rather stay in, order takeout, watch Netflix and play board games. I’m a girl who too often picks a good book over a night at the bar. I come off as an extrovert, but really I’m an introvert who’s dying to cuddle up with a guy and just chill indoors.
  11. I want to know what it’s like to love someone forever. I want to know what it’s like to commit the rest of my life to one person. I believe in “The One.” I truly think there is one right person for everyone out there, myself included. I love my single life but I’m not going to give up on finding my future husband. Being single is good for now, yes — I just don’t want the single life to last forever.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has been blogging for over four years and writing her whole life. Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. She enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.