Single? The Sad Truth Is That, These Days, You’re Likely To Stay That Way

Dating is tough and finding someone you actually like is the trickiest thing of all. You can go on as many first dates as you want, but that doesn’t guarantee anything other than more frustration and weirdness. Here’s why you’re more likely to stay single these days:

  1. You’re dating in the worst possible time. Let’s just face facts here: dating right now really sucks. Guys are flakes and they seem to cancel more dates than they keep… and if they actually go on a date with you, they’re being rude or seem to have zero interest in an actual relationship. It’s a really rough time to try to find true love, and that means you’re likely going to stay single for a long time.
  2. You’re plagued by almosts. Almost first dates, almost relationships, almost love stories — you seem to be totally and completely cured. When you keep experiencing these setbacks and disappointments, you’re going to get pretty frustrated with dating and you’re never going to end up in a relationship. It’s not your fault, it’s just the way that things are going.
  3. You’re picky. That’s a good thing — you’re totally right to be picky. You want to make sure you end up with a good guy, and you’re mature and wise enough to know what kind of person you’re really looking for. Unfortunately, the pickier you are, the less likely it is that anyone will end up measuring up, and that really sucks.
  4. You would rather die than settle. The idea of not settling is a good one… but only in theory. As an abstract concept, sure, you should never settle — but the problem with that it ups the chances that you end up alone. You have to settle in some ways — you can’t expect perfection in the guys that you date, and eventually you have to appreciate someone for the good catch that they are instead of worrying about settling.
  5. You’re busy killing your career. The more time you spend on your work, the less time you have to date. That’s just a super simple dating formula right there. That’s not a bad thing — of course you deserve all the career success in the world. It just means that whether you mean to or not, you’re not putting the same amount of effort into your love life, and that means staying solo.
  6. You always need a break. It’s no big secret that dating sucks sometimes, so of course you tell yourself it’s totally okay to take a dating break… and another one… and another one. Soon you’ve taken so many breaks that you’re not even dating at all. Oops. When you do this, you’re cementing your single status, for better or for worse.
  7. You meet immature guys. Dating in your 20s is no joke, and the guys you’re meeting are unfortunately not always on your level in terms of maturity and just being able to handle real life. You’re working hard and paying bills and making plans for the future while they’re stuck in video game/junk food/bro limbo. These guys aren’t boyfriend material at all, so of course you’re still single when that’s who you’re dating.
  8. You love being single. The truth is, you’ve created an awesome life for yourself and you really like living it. You’ve become cool with being solo and you even love it. You’d rather be positive than negative any day of the week, and in the process of keeping your head held high, something funny happened: you learned how great it is to be on your own. Now, you’re pretty much going to stay single by choice. There’s nothing wrong with that… as long as you don’t think you’re missing out.
  9. Your second dates are rare. In your world, it’s all first dates with random strangers and they never turn into a second meeting. That’s one guaranteed way to stay single. Whether the dates just don’t pan out or you’re rejecting guys because you know they’re not right for you, the fact of the matter is that you’re not getting far enough with anyone to stop your single status.
  10. You need to give it more time. You may not stay single forever and ever, but you may stay this way for at least another year or so. You need to give your love story time to unfold. If you can stay patient and wait it out, you might be surprised at what can happen. But in the meantime, you’ll be your awesome single self, and that’s totally okay.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.