Single Woman Stereotypes That Are Actually Kinda True

Cat ladies, sad, desperate … we’ve all heard what they say about single women. The majority of single woman stereotypes are untrue.  And luckily, anyone with half a brain who’s progressed beyond the 1950s knows they’re not true. But there are also those stereotypes about single women that can have some validity to them. Read on to find out which ones are kinda true, at least for some women.

  1. They’re not willing to settle. It’s mostly true that single women are not willing to settle. Many aren’t single involuntarily but are choosing to stay alone because they think it’s preferable to being with the wrong person. While there are, of course, single women who don’t want to be single, they still tend to be reluctant to settle. Otherwise, in most cases, they wouldn’t be single.
  2. They’re hard to please. Of all the single women stereotypes, this one might be the truest. Single women get a bad reputation for being hard to please. And for the most part, that’s kind of true. Especially those single women who have always been single, or who have been single for a long time, they tend to develop a strong sense of independence. They also develop confidence, which it takes to stay on your own in a couple’s world. Pair that with the fact that they’re not willing to settle, and you have people who are often difficult to please. They’re not going to be swept off their feet by the most basic of gestures. For them to stop being single, someone seriously impressive is going to have to come along.
  3. They’re super independent. While there are exceptions to every rule, it’s true that single women tend to be more independent than their counterparts. Why? Simply because they have to be. Single women don’t have a plus one to attend every party with; sooner or later, they have to walk in by themselves. Often if they want to experience things like restaurants, movies, museums, landmarks, and other fun activities, they have to be okay with going alone. That’s especially true if all their friends have partners! Being single forces you tobe more independent, which is a good thing.
  4. They value family and friends. Family and friends tend to mean more to single women than those who have partners. Their friends and family are the most important relationships in their lives. That’s why single women often make the best friends. They have a little extra space in their lives (where a romantic relationship would otherwise be) to put towards other relationships.
  5. They’re picky. Yeah, single women tend to be picky. But contrary to popular belief, that’s not a bad thing. When you’re picky, you’ll probably spend a longer time going without until you come across what you want. But when you finally get what you want, you know it’ll be worth it. Not all single women are picky, but many know exactly what they want in a partner and don’t want anything less.
  6. They’re ambitious. Again, not all single women. But more often than not, single women are ambitious. They have huge goals and dreams, whether those relate to their careers or personal lives. They might want to travel the world. Own their own company. Become a movie star. Many people who desire things that are difficult to achieve choose to stay single because they don’t want the distraction that a relationship can bring.
  7. They’re insecure. Sadly, this stereotype can be true too. Not because single women should be insecure, but because society makes them feel insecure. If women buy into social media, pop culture, and tradition, then they’re made to feel like they’re not good enough unless they’re in a relationship. That they’re not worth anything until someone loves them. That their lives don’t have meaning until they’re wives and mothers. None of that is true at all, but it’s very easy to get sucked into feeling like it is. Even confident and proud single women who choose not to have relationships can struggle with moments of insecurity when some clueless person asks them when they’re getting married.
  8. They want to get married. Sometimes single women do want to get married. Of course, this definitely doesn’t apply to them all, and the widespread belief that it does just needs to disappear. But just because a woman is single doesn’t mean she hates the idea of marriage or doesn’t believe in love. It also doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want children. While that can be the case, single women can also be single because they simply haven’t found someone who can make them happy. And they value their own happiness over being in a relationship for the sake of it.
Vanessa Locampo is an Aussie writer who’s equally obsessed with YA fiction and pasta. Her time is divided between writing all the things, reading all the things, listening to Queen, and bopping her cat on the nose. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing and has written for sites including and Discovering Montana, and currently works as an editor at Glam. You can keep up with her on Instagram @vanessaellewrites.