Single women can be divided into two categories: totally depressed about not having love in our lives, or completely happy on our own. Hopefully we’re the second kind, because otherwise it’s kind of lame. It’s not that we wouldn’t enjoy ourselves if we had a boyfriend — it’s just that we’re having the time of our lives right where we are on our journey.
- We validate ourselves. If we buy a new dress or shade of lipstick, we’re not looking to our BFs to see if they like it. We like it and that’s good enough for us. We do what we want (within reason, of course) and the only person whose approval we need is the one staring back at us in the bathroom mirror.
- We fill up our schedules. We remember what it’s like to be in a relationship — and we remember staying home most of the time while being unsure if the other person wanted to do something more exciting. Instead, we’re packing our calendars with the things we truly want to do and that really excite us, from seeing some pop culture docs at a festival or weekly dinner dates with our equally single friends.
- We have deep friendships. We’re not whining to our BFFs about how our boyfriend doesn’t want to go to a family wedding this summer. We care about our friendships and take the time to really get to know the girls in our lives. Those people are super important to us, especially now when we’re on our own.
- We move on fast. We’re used to being single at this point, so bad dates don’t faze us one bit. We can pick ourselves up when you ghost us or when we ghost you because you were a jerk. Being able to walk away from a horrible first date or almost relationship is super liberating.
- We don’t expect forever. In some ways, it’s much worse to be in a serious relationship because we hope it’ll last for the rest of our lives. But when we’re single, we know forever doesn’t always come true and that no matter what happens when we do meet someone, we can deal.
- We have a clear vision. We don’t have weird dealbreakers — we just know the kind of person we want, and that makes our dating lives so much easier. We’ve got our careers on track, too, and we’re just waiting for all of the pieces to fit together.
- We feel at peace. Of course we freak out sometimes about when we’re going to have a boyfriend again. But for the most part, we’re okay with our status and we’re willing to trust that the universe will figure things out for us. That’s so much better than relationship drama.
- We know who we are. We watch trashy reality TV when we’ve had a hard week at the office. We read three books at once because why not? We know who we are — smart, funny, witty, and kind women who simply haven’t met the right guy yet. We’re going to live our lives in the meantime and have the most fun we possibly can. And that’s sweeter than any romance.
