Size Matters In The Bedroom, But Not In The Ways You Think

It’s an age old debate: does penis size matter? Like everyone else, I have my own personal preference, but it’s more about the whole package. Here are my thoughts:

  1. It’s more about girth. A long, skinny penis is no better than a short one. In the end, the size that matters most is girth. The bigger around a guy is, the more friction you’ll feel, which is one of the main things that gets you off during penetration. Try an angle that rubs your clitoris too and you’re all set.
  2. Even a finger can get you off. Before you think he’s way too small, think about this. A finger angled the right way gets you off. It might take a little work to find the right position, but if a finger can do it, a small penis can, too.
  3. It’s your problem, not his. Why blame him? It’s not like he woke up one day and said, “I think my penis should be thin and small.” If you don’t like his rod, that’s your problem. It’s like blaming a guy for having blonde hair when you only like brunettes.
  4. Penises are like boobs — you don’t get a choice.  Wouldn’t it piss you off if a guy refused to date you because your boobs were too big or too small? The same applies here. He doesn’t get a choice. Whatever size he finally gets is the size he’s stuck with.
  5. There’s no perfect size. Go ahead and have a technical penis discussion with your friends. What size do they like best? I bet all of you have a different preference. One might love wider, shorter ones while you might prefer an average length and width. Since we all like something different, there’s no real perfect size.
  6. Big or small, there’s one for all. Penises come in all shapes and sizes. Don’t like the one currently inside you? Find another one. Take some different sizes for a test ride and see which one gets you screaming the loudest.
  7. As long as you feel it, it’s just right. The only penis that’s truly too small is the one you can’t feel at all. Of course, remember that all vaginas are different, too, and one might be tighter or looser than another. As long as you can feel him inside you, his size is good enough.
  8. His other “size” matters more. I know what you’re thinking: “There’s another size?” Yes. A giant penis isn’t exactly attractive, if you’re afraid you’ll break the guy or you’re afraid of being suffocated if he rolls over. His body should be a good fit for yours. If the rest of him is right, his penis will be just fine.
  9. Sex online is not the norm. We blame guys for having unrealistic expectations from watching sex, but we’re guilty, too. Do you really think those guys with penises that look like they’re a foot long are the norm? No. That’s why they’re in the sex industry. They’re rare. Plus, it’s hard for them to sleep with normal women because they’re just too big.
  10. Size is more important to him, so be nice. It’s his biggest insecurity. Whatever you think about his penis, keep it to yourself unless it’s a compliment. Remember, you can always find another guy. He’s stuck with the same penis forever.
  11. It’s all in how you use it. Yeah, major cliche, but true. You could find the world’s most perfect penis, but if all he can do is thrust in and out at the same speed for five minutes, it’s kind of a waste. The guy who knows how to angle himself to hit the right spot every time is the perfect size, no matter what his actual size might be.
  12. Penetration isn’t the only way to get off. Many women don’t get off from penetration anyway, so why worry about his size? Let him use his fingers to rub your clitoris or have ample foreplay so you’re already a few orgasms in before the main event starts.
  13. Too big’s no fun for anyone. Big penises are nice, but there’s such a thing as too big. Seriously, when he doesn’t fit, it’s just painful. Believe it or not, there are guys out there who can’t have sex because women don’t enjoy it. Sad, but true.
Crystal Crowder is a freelance writer and blogger. She's a tech geek at heart, but loves telling it like it is when it comes to love, beauty and style. She's enjoys writing music, poetry and fiction and curling up with a great book. You can find her on Twitter @ccrowderwrites or check out her other writing on Medium.