I’ve Slept With Plenty Of Guys But I’ve Never Looked At Their Junk

I am not one of those girls that thinks that penises are beautiful. In fact, I think they’re downright weird AF to look at. For me, staring one in the eye (they don’t have eyes, but you know what I mean) would actually be a turn-off, and that’s why I’ll sleep with a guy but I’ll never actually take a peek at his package.

  1. It’s not a maturity thing. I know what you’re thinking, but I’m perfectly comfortable with the idea of sex and I’m confident in myself as a partner. This isn’t a “boys have cooties” thing or a, “I’m still in high school and giggle at the idea of a penis.” It’s honestly just a fact that looking at it doesn’t do it for me so I prefer to close my eyes.
  2. I don’t need to look to size it up. The first question my girl friends ask when they find out about my methods of aversion is, “But, how do you know how big he is?!” All the touching and feeling, not to mention the poking my thigh every single time we make out, is all I need to know what I’m getting myself into. To be honest, I probably have a better sense of size by NOT looking because touch is my only point of comparison.
  3. Yes, I enjoy looking at everything else. My avoidance of dudes’ junk doesn’t mean I don’t like looking at the rest of the body. I firmly believe in physical attraction and I’m going to scour every other inch of their faces and physiques until the sun comes up. Physical appearance isn’t everything but it’s definitely something.
  4. Maintenance becomes a non-issue. To some extent, I can sense the presence or lack of manscaping without looking. But without anticipating staring at the thing for the entire time I’m going down on a guy, I don’t have to worry about whether or not I’ll be pleased with the scenery. It stresses me out to the max to wonder what a guy thinks of the way I keep myself down there and I prefer not having to bother with his situation.
  5. My imagination is probably better than the real thing. It’s very likely that whatever picture I’ve concocted in my head is more impressive than the original. I’m basically just saving the guy and myself from disappointment, so it’s helping everybody!
  6. Hands are all I need to know what I’m doing. It’s perfectly possible to give fabulous head, an epic hand job and guide a guy into the right spot for sex without actually looking. I can feel my way into and out of any situation, and if it’s worked before fine, why would I stop now?
  7. Lights on or off, I don’t care. One of the biggest decisions when you’re hooking up with someone new is whether to leave the lights on or off. Personally, I prefer to have them off, only because I’m super critical of my own body and don’t like to see it. But since I’m not looking anyway, I really couldn’t care less. This way, he can decide if he wants a view or not.
  8. I can focus on sensations. They say sight limits our ability to experience other senses fully and I’m sure they’re right. Think of it like why people use blindfolds when they fool around—it makes everything more intense. By using my energy to experience what I’m feeling and not seeing, it makes both of our experiences even better.
  9. I don’t want to risk being turned off from an otherwise good thing. Nothing would be worse than getting hot and heavy with some guy, only to have it ruined when I catch a peek of his junk. You could make the argument that if I was pleased with what I saw, it would make it even better, but I’m not willing to take the chance just yet.
  10. The guys have absolutely no idea, and that’s fine with me. I’ve been doing this for so long that most guys don’t realize I’ve never actually looked at them. The male ego is a fragile thing, so I actually prefer it that way. I wouldn’t want them to be offended since the reality is that it has nothing to do with them. My lack of interest in the physical appearance of penises goes back to the start of my experiences with guys and says nothing about them personally.
  11. Maybe one day I’ll change my mind. While I currently can’t picture myself being one of those girls who absolutely loves to look at her partner’s equipment, I know you should never say never. Perhaps there’s a guy in my future who will be so amazing that I’ll be unable to avoid a peak. And for all I know, once I see one, I won’t be able to stop. But for right now, I’m perfectly fine using my imagination.
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