I Do These 11 Small Things To Boost My Confidence And They Totally Work!

I’ve struggled with poor self-esteem and I know I’m not the only one. I never felt good enough, but then I started to realize how pointless it was to think that way. Here are some strategies I used to work on feeling more self-assured. Give these a try—they might help you too.

  1. I don’t think or speak negatively about myself. I never tell myself I’m ugly or fat, nor do I make comments to my friends about it. I try to focus on my good qualities and what I know my strengths are. Focusing on the positive and not the negative has slowly changed how I feel about myself and has given me much more confidence.
  2. I don’t compare myself to others. It’s much easier to see the good in myself when I don’t compare myself to anyone else, especially on social media since we all know how misleading it can be. There’s always going to be someone better looking or more successful than I am, but who cares? It doesn’t diminish my accomplishments at all. I should be proud of what I’ve achieved regardless of what others do. Once I started to accept this, my self-esteem greatly improved.
  3. I truly believe I can do anything I set my mind to. It really is possible to accomplish anything I want to if I want it bad enough. If sexual predators can attain high positions in the government, then I can definitely achieve my (much more legal and ethical) goals. Anyone can! When I started believing I could do anything, my confidence went way up.
  4. I force myself out of my comfort zone sometimes. I do things that make me comfortable and happy, but I also try to do things sometimes that might make me a little nervous. When I find out I can do things I didn’t think I could, it helps me realize I really can do anything I set my mind to, and this gives me all the confidence in the world.
  5. I give myself words of affirmation every day. Even when people try to bring me down, I don’t listen to them. Instead, I tell myself I’m killing it and that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about me. I keep moving forward. This stops me from doubting myself and my choices and keeps me from giving in to negative opinions.
  6. I prepare for everything. Feeling prepared for any situation helps me feel more self-assured. For example, I always research and rehearse before a school or work presentation, sometimes to a point of obsession. I also try to be prepared for any outcome in any given situation, good or bad. Being ready for anything helps me have confidence that I can handle anything life throws at me.
  7. I constantly work toward my life goals. This means taking big and small steps toward the goals I want to achieve. I make a conscious decision every day to make choices that will lead me to where I want to be. When I know I’m doing everything I can to move my life forward, I really feel like I have my stuff together and am way more confident.
  8. I look my best. I make sure I feel good about how I look no matter what others think. For me personally, I feel the most confident wearing my gym clothes. It can be something different for everyone though. Another woman might feel her best going makeup-free for example. Being happy with my outward appearance (as well as what I feel on the inside, of course) gives me a self-esteem boost.
  9. I take care of my health. I feel gross when I don’t take care of myself, and this causes my self-esteem to plummet. When I exercise and eat right, my physical and mental both improve. It’s honestly what keeps me sane, and it gives me confidence because I look and feel my strongest. When I’m healthy, I feel much more sure of myself.
  10. I realize no one is perfect so I shouldn’t expect to be. Even those that seem to have everything they’ve ever wanted still struggle with self-image—just look at some celebrities who’ve fallen from grace as an example. I finally understand that I don’t have to have it all to be worth something. I try to love myself despite my imperfections because everyone has them.
  11. I recognize that having confidence takes time. Poor self-image isn’t cured overnight. It takes small changes in my attitude and actions that will eventually lead me to where I want to be. I need to have patience and give myself a break. I do my best to focus on the positive, and it has kept me on track toward being my best confident self.
Kelli loves to write about lots of different topics, especially relationships, parenting, health, and fitness. She is excited to share her experiences!