Why The Smartest Girls Have The Hardest Time With Love

The smarter we are, the harder it is for us to find a date. It’s not because men are intimidated by intelligent women, either — it has more to do with us than it has to do with them. Here’s the real reason girls with big brains have the hardest time with their hearts:

  1. We don’t have time for small talk.When we meet a new guy, we don’t want to talk about bland topics like TV and the weather. Of course, that’s what first conversations usually consist of, which is why we get bored of potential boyfriends before we get the chance to really get to know them.
  2. We have high standards.We won’t settle for less than we deserve, and we’re smart enough to know that we deserve a whole damn lot. If a guy tries to use us for sex, play games with us, or treat us like we’re inferior, we’re not going to be returning his texts.
  3. We won’t let a guy become our whole life. Love isn’t our main priority. We have jobs, families, and friends that we have to worry about, which is why we can completely forget about the idea of dating. It just isn’t on our minds.
  4. We can see through a guy’s lies. We’re smart enough to know when we’re being lied to. We won’t give most guys a chance, because we’re able to see through them from the start.
  5. We think with our heads instead of our hearts. There’s nothing logical about love. When we develop feelings for someone, we’re able to take a step back and decide whether or not dating that person would be a good idea. We don’t let ourselves get blinded by our emotions.
  6. We know the statistics.Unfortunately, we live in a world with a high divorce rate. There’s a bigger chance of breaking up than of staying together, which is why we won’t waste too much time searching for a partner.
  7. We overthink everything.When a guy texts us, we’ll reread his sentences ten times before coming to a conclusion about what he was really thinking when he sent the message. We assume that everyone has as many layers as we do, so we always try to decipher the little things.
  8. We won’t use our looks to get a date.We don’t want to date someone who values our bodies over our brains. Since we refuse to use our looks to attract guys, some of them look right past us and don’t realize what a catch we really are.
  9. We don’t always have time for dating.We have busy lives. Most of our time is spent working, and the rest of our time is spent taking care of our homes. It’s hard to have a social life when our to-do list is packed, which is why we don’t go out on many dates.
  10. We love books more than people.We know that humans are flawed. They can let us down and they can break our hearts. That’s why we prefer books and animals over people.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.